Have you ever been happy about another break up?

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Where did I ever say, or did any of you ever get the idea this girl was hot, or that I get attracted to girls out of my league? If you could see a picture of the girl I'm talking about, you'd see she's cute, but by no means a 10, or even a 7 or an 8. I don't know where she'd place. I liked her because we shared the same interests, because our work in school was along similar lines, and I wanted to know her better. She had a great personality. Of course, a lot of the respect I had for her went away when she decided to break up a marriage. And I couldn't help wondering what would've happened if she'd chosen me. Certainly the other guy and his wife might've been better off. And maybe I'd have been the kind of guy for this girl, so she wouldn't have felt the need to be a homewrecker.

I get frustrated because I DO have things to offer to somebody, if somebody, ANYBODY would give me a goddamn chance, like I was willing to give them.

And so I will cop to schadenfreude. I'm glad, so very, very glad, both these people got their comeuppances for what they did.
Eventually someone's got to see me for me, and what I have to offer, and I will NEVER treat that person the way these other losers did. I'll appreciate her, love her, never take her for granted or dump her for some newer, shinier model.

I find it odd that people are indifferent to others relationships. I ve had lots of people Ive known who I was very glad they broke up their relationship, and lots of people have told me they were glad when I had relationships brake up. People usually say "thank goodness I hated him!" and I think why on earth didnt you say sooner!! !

Im not very nice though as when I found out my mums friends wife died, the first thing I said to my mum was "so he is single then?" lol, how horrid of me, poor chap.

Don't be so hard on yourself, LotusBlossom, I don't think that's such a bad thing to say, there are worse things you could of said.

I understand what you're saying. I have been relieved when someone I've cared about left a bad situation and have thought it was for the best. But I can't remember being happy about anyone's relationship falling apart and ending. Maybe because I believe anytime a close relationship has ended it's like a death and no matter if the person is smiling on the outside, deep inside, there lies pain. If it's someone I'm not really close to, I'm indifferent, I'm sorry that's just the way I am. Perhaps we just look at break-ups differently.

I get frustrated because I DO have things to offer to somebody, if somebody, ANYBODY would give me a goddamn chance, like I was willing to give them.

I expect Im just less subtle in my emotions, I tend to be happy or sad or cross about things and would probably not recognise the subtlties you describe but would just feel happy in that siutuation rather than a more complex emotion such as 'relief tinged with sadness'. Im not good at recognising subtlties in what I feel.