How to get an Aspie Girl?

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07 Dec 2010, 11:50 am

Adamantus wrote:

Is anyone else on the AA site?

I joined just so I could look at the pictures. I didn't see anyone who lived anywhere near me, so I didn't bother filling out my profile or anything.

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07 Dec 2010, 11:55 am

look

if you can find a aspi girl

it will paradies

because she talk by her heart first
without lie
and it is the real love

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07 Dec 2010, 7:42 pm

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thedaywalker wrote:

it might take a few tries but i recommend using a bear trap.

I have to disagree! Obviously the quickest way to a girl's heart is through her chest.

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07 Dec 2010, 8:13 pm

the bear trap idea sounds like a genius idea :lol:

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08 Dec 2010, 1:09 pm

But can anyone get access now?

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08 Dec 2010, 1:12 pm

sunshower wrote:

In my opinion, the best way to meet other aspies - girls and guys - is through local support groups. I've met lots of other AS males and females that way. If you don't have any local support groups, start your own one.

i attest to that.

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08 Dec 2010, 1:17 pm

Why limit yourself to Aspie girls. I mean, there's nothing wrong with females on the spectrum but there are not as many autistic females as they're are males so your chances of meeting a female aspie are not super great.

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08 Dec 2010, 1:18 pm

I've started my own social/support group in my area. It's not particularly for the purpose of meeting women with ASDs but I'll let you know how it works for that purpose. But I think starting a group for something that is uncommon/rare enough that it doesn't already have its own group becomes a sort of chicken and egg problem. If you know enough people to start a group, you probably don't need a group in the first place; you already have enough people to socialize with.

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08 Dec 2010, 1:44 pm

sadalgerian wrote:

look

if you can find a aspi girl

it will paradies

because she talk by her heart first
without lie
and it is the real love

...what!?

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08 Dec 2010, 1:46 pm

Adamantus wrote:

Is anyone else on the AA site? No alcoholics anonymous no..

All I see is code in multiple browsers.

It breaks a lot.

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08 Dec 2010, 10:10 pm

Upon finding a female you believe to be aspie, I can only say based on my experience recently - be obvious, but polite. I'd suggest presenting your interests like a business plan - logically set out, all bases covered, and see if she agrees. I'm not sure about others, but I strongly dislike romance. I feel like I'm being manipulated and lied to. A honest explanation suits me fine, and I'd be more inclined to respect the person for it. Probably different for everyone, though.

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08 Dec 2010, 10:44 pm

just-lou wrote:

I agree. My boyfriend was very straight talking when we first met, probably most would say too confident in his approach, but it worked well for me. Although once we established we were interested in each other he became more romantic. Less 'alpha' in his approach, i guess.

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09 Dec 2010, 12:18 pm

just-lou wrote:

Not sure I understand what you mean. Surely the point is to find a romatic relationship. What do you mean setting out what you like in a business plan what you like and seeing if she agrees? So not just talking to her and getting to know her? Keeping it simple?

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09 Dec 2010, 6:11 pm

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Surely the point is to find a romatic relationship. What do you mean setting out what you like in a business plan what you like and seeing if she agrees? So not just talking to her and getting to know her? Keeping it simple?

I suppose people have different ideas of romance. I mean all the cliched stuff. I find all the trappings of romance to be off-putting, embarrassing and dishonest. To me, true "romance" would be good honest solid companionship, respect, understanding and being on the same wavelength. Just having someone to share your life with. I dislike all the grand gestures and the performance people usually associate with romance. The drama.
Also, again I can only speak for how I see things - talking and getting to know one another is fine, but if you wanted to pursue things into a more intimate area, an aspie female may not notice. The poor bloke pursuing me has literally been talking to and getting to know me for years, and I thought we were just mates. Because I don't pick up on cues, I had no idea he was interested in me until he flat out told me to my face and asked me all the questions, and outlined precisely what he would like us to be to each other. Then I understood (as well as I can) and can work from there.

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10 Dec 2010, 8:37 am

just-lou wrote:

Because I don't pick up on cues, I had no idea he was interested in me until he flat out told me to my face and asked me all the questions, and outlined precisely what he would like us to be to each other.

That always helps.

I've had that happen so many times, that by now I can sort of sense it without it having to be spelt out for me. Or maybe I'm just getting better at avoiding the girls who like to play games ¬_¬

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12 Dec 2010, 5:27 pm

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This site is quite dodgy. I registered and logged in but then the site echoed the db queries on the page. I would be careful, on a practical note it could disclose your email and personal details. I'd be happy to offer assistance into fixing it as I have a lot of knowledge in this area, but don't use Pear too much. Is this Alex's site?

I think it's a great concept, but the execution is less-than-optimal to say the least. I'm sure Alex would love to fix it but probably doesn't have the resources? With all the IT brainpower we have around here it would seem that a few volunteers could get it whipped into shape in no time...

Has anyone ever pursued this angle, I would but I'm not nearly techie enough...

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