Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

I feel discouraged.

Page 2 of 2 [ 19 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2

Previous topic | Next topic

Erisad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 5 Jul 2010
Age: 36
Gender: Female
Posts: 13,058
Location: United States

09 Dec 2010, 8:20 am

MidlifeAspie wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Yeah but some people use this kind of theory to accuse women with AS for allowing the gene live on.


I am glad it is "allowed" to live on. It is who I am and I have nothing against my genes or my condition. If I didn't have it I would be someone else - and I like who I am.


I feel that way to. Sadly others can't accept who they are and it makes me sad. :(



Janissy
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 5 May 2009
Age: 59
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,450
Location: x

09 Dec 2010, 9:57 am

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
I'm serious, in all my time on WP, I have not seen a single male who claimed to have had a relationship whose profile said they were diagnosed with asperger's syndrome. All of the people who talk about their relationships are either female, neurotypical, or have "Have Asperger's - Undiagnosed" or "Not sure if I have it or not" on their profile. I have a feeling these guys are only in relationships because they don't actually have AS or only have a borderline case, and that relationships for a true aspie male are virtually impossible. Real aspie men die alone.


This is because you are either not clicking on the profiles of men with succesful relationships or blocking it out of your mind when you do. Click on the profile of MidLifeAspie. He's diagnosed (per profile) and wrote you a very encouraging post citing his own marriage....and he wrote it before you wrote this post.



SabbraCadabra
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Apr 2008
Age: 42
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,821
Location: Michigan

10 Dec 2010, 8:57 am

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
Besides, how can a relationship be meaningful if it's just with some random person who just happened to be the first one who didn't reject me?


You would be surprised.

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
I didn't get one message (not that I wanted to get one anyway).


As much as it sounds like it would be really awesome...they are not going to message you unless you message them first. I put my AIM screen name in my profile, and I've had a few girls IM me out of nowhere, but that's about it.

And I'd have to say maybe 50% of the girls who did IM me were crazy needy chicks with issues that I seriously could not deal with...

fb5b wrote:
When I was 21, I fit so well into the "desparate and dateless" category it wasn't funny. At first I complained, went on these nice guys finish last rants etc, but I realised the problem wasn't society, or a conspiracy against Asp sufferers, it was me. I was a clingy, emotionally dependant guy who didn't take care of himself and was 100% dependant on someone else to be happy. If I was a girl I wouldn't date me either!


Ain't that the truth? :cry: This was me for way too long :x

Though there's a fine line between confidence and apathy, I had a bit of trouble dancing on it.

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
I'm sorry, it's just frustrating because people always say "Well I have AS and I'm in a relationship" and it turns out they're in a completely different situation from mine (female, might be NT, etc.).


I am definitely not NT. 99.999% certain that I am not (or 91% certain, if my Aspie Quiz score is to be believed). I don't see what being female has to do with it though, there are plenty of girls here who have trouble finding guys.


_________________
I'll brave the storm to come, for it surely looks like rain...