i don't know why he dislikes me so much.

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Seriously though, there's no brotherhood or sisterhood left among people who smoke weed? I might have to blame medical marijuana or something. It just doesn't seem right.

Wouldn't know, i've always been a prude, lol. If there's a brotherhood that stops people who get high from making bad choices >.> I'm all for it.

Wait let me get this straight, you got high and drunk, the guy got pissed, he forgave you eventually(unable to tell if he actually did forgive you or if he wanted to break it off, either way it doesn't really matter) and then you blew him off? How is it hard to understand why he's mad? You thought he forgave you and then you start getting mad at him. Oh I'm not saying the guy is right, maybe he's an a**hole but my point still stands.

i screwed up -_- he must not have liked me that much anyway if it was so hard for him to forgive me over me getting stoned and acting dumb. it's not like i hurt anyone's feelings or stole anything. i do see your point, though.

I'm so sorry. You must feel terrible.

It seem though you can only accept 50% of the blame here. Yes, you didn't handle everything correctly. But he doesn't seem to be taking responsibility either. In fact, I see you starting to take responsibility, which shows maturity.

It also seems you still want something from him? I'm not sure what that is. Is your school on break? If so, maybe you can use that time to come to terms about what you want. It might also give him time to cool off.

And getting drunk or high when just starting a relationship is generally not a good idea. But hey, you made a mistake and hopefully can recover. Nobody told you in the well publicized dating manual not to do it.

Kind of sounds like he has major issues of his own -- maybe some kind of personality disorder. This is why he seemed so desperate and irritable -- some of it is the disorder, some of it is that he resents working so hard and yet still running into problems.

Some advice though -- nothing against smoking out or drinking, but you should probably abstain if you can't control yourself. The smart partiers know what their tolerance is. It definitely is a pain in the ass to have your date be the drunk chick at the party.

Also -- both of you are stressing too much. Can't you both just relax and be around eachother, or make out, or something?

oh, believe me, now i know not to ever get high at a party again. this is only the 50th time i've gotten too paranoid to talk to anyone, or talk about anything but what i'm so worried about.
what personality disorder does it sound like he has? i just find it weird how someone could be so obsessive yet so... cold? it just don't make no sense. haha.
and as much as i wish i could do that, we're never hanging out again, let alone discussing anything together. he ignored my apology.

Ive been in the wrong kind of enviroment for a while (a few childhood friends started smoking weed a year ago and every now and then we see ech other), as far as Im aware their moral code is pretty simple"if someone invites you when you dont have any its your duty to invite them back when you do have".

Back on topic he probably wasnt expecting so much personal details that soon and he tried running away as soon as possible. I wouldnt say its your fault because Ive been on a similar situation in the past (last time I smoked weed and flirted the other person spent 2 months avoiding me and she was at my class ).

May I advice being a little more carefull next time you go to a party with a date(I like getting drank and high but from previous experiences Ive come to the conclusion I should avoid that kind of things when Im on a date).

Theres a certain time for everything and I personally dont find puking(which is how I end up when I drink/smoke without any control) romantic.

Edit: you already posted an answer to a previous poster and his message was very similar so nevermind.

Really, there's not enough info at this point to tell -- irritability can be a lot of things, from a sign of depression, to things like borderline personality disorder, etc. Just a whole rainbow out there.

My questions though (and I wouldn't ask him this, but think about it for a bit):

1. Why is he coming off so desperate/stalkerish? It's one thing to be shy and watch a girl before you make your move, but it sounds like maybe he isn't having a lot of success in the dating world. Why? I'm trying not to be too hard here, because we all have cold streaks and times where we're not valued as much as we should be by the opposite sex.

2. Why isn't he nice once he's at the point where he should be wooing you more? It is awkwardness, does he not know how, etc.?

3. Why is he so angry all the time? Depressed? Frustrated? (dating life not going well) Do you really want to be around this guy long-term?