Any older Aspies in stable relationships?

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I have had several LTRs, marriages. I usually make men very angry, and most of the time don't know why they are mad. One guy casually told me he was leaving after years together, just chattering away about his plans, but then wanted me back after a year. Since that one, my dating relationships don't last more than a few months because they (sorry) just seem to do such stupid things, go back on their word, let me down, and I quit trying to make it work, withdraw because I really hate it when people go back on what they say.

I consider myself to be "successful in relationships", especially since you pluralized it.
Part of being successful in a relationship is knowing when to end it.
Different relationships have different goals; the goal not always being "stay together forever no matter what". Some short term relationships are just as important for learning about yourself and other people. There's at least one relationship I can think of that I had, where even before going for it, I knew it was a bad idea. I knew it would end badly, and that it would probably be painful. The thing is...I really needed that exact dynamic at the time.
There was also an 11 year relationship that I had, that should have ended long before it did. At the same time, if it hadn't been exactly what it was, I wouldn't be the same person I am now. And I'm pretty fond of the person I am now. So, there you go.

Length of relationship isn't a very good marker to judge its "success".

I'm not comfortrable with the idea of a relationship with an alterior motve, because that's using and hurting another person.