Balance between faknig confidence and being true to oneself

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hi there,

yeah, i know this feeling. It seems in general that I am bad in playing any role. Because i feel that i am dishonest, and then i start laughing or stop playing. Others seem rather likeable to accept any role playing. Not sure about that.

byebye,
anton

I does bother me that I'm expected to act confident when I'm not. It's as much a forced personality change as pretending I'm interested in something I'm not.
Also, having confidence when you shouldn't can make you look ridiculous. I don't have a permanent job, a car, a cell phone (because I have no friends to call me), I still live at home, I have no significant education, and no particular desire to change any of those things, and I have no notable accomplishments or life experience.
I can't take all that and act like I'm gods gift to whoever is standing in front of me at the moment.
I am funny though. But even being the beloved comedic figure I am, it still hasn't made anyone want to stick around permanently.

Good Grief.

Stop over analyzing and just live your life.


Confidence comes with experience. You can only be truly confident when you KNOW you can do something because you've successfully done it before, more than once.


Faking confidence will get you humiliated when you act like you know what you're doing, then screw it up because you don't and publicly demonstrate that you are a liar and an idiot.


You don't have to have confidence when you're doing something you're unsure of. You have to have HUMILITY. The courage to admit that you're not sure what you're doing, but giving it a shot anyway. Then if you look stupid when you fail the first time or two you can always shrug, blush, and say "Hey, cut me some slack, I'm new at this" that way you don't look like a jerk, you look like a decent person who doesn't take themselves too seriously and is willing to risk a little embarrassment to learn something new.

Its not rocket surgery.