Getting past Hi, how are you? Good....

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this is probably one of the most frustrating aspects of AS, in my opinion. I don't talk unless I have to convey a message of -some- importance, whereas NTs seem to have an uncanny abillity to steer conversations in ways that seem SOOOOO boring to us, speaking of nothing, or nonsense, all the while getting a favorable response. GAAAH!! This is the only aspect in which I wish I had a lobotomy, get me stupider, then I could talk about reality stars, crappy music or stupid stuff I did with friends at some point.

I watch TV shows that nobody watches, I listen to music that most people don't even know exist, I never got into any trouble with friends, I have contempt for most if not all social conventions and here I am supposed to be the one to engage in conversation in order to get to know someone better, and I'm not even talking about WOMEN!!

What am I supposed to do? I just stay the way I am, and hope for the best. but it's still darn frustrating.

I'm kinda P-Oed right now...

Do you know the Dr Hook song "24 years of living next door to Alice"?

"24 years of waiting for a chance, to tell her how I feel and maybe get a second glance"

Geez, how stupid is that guy?

First off don't ask a girl for a "date", dinner with candles and all that.

Offer to lend her a book or a CD. Then you get to see her twice more. Once to give her the book and again to get it back.

Then you can say "Hey, lets get a cup of coffee and talk about the book"

It might help to talk about the situation at hand or something related to it. It's better not to have the whole conversation planned because you never know if what you're going to say even applies when it's your turn. It might start with groceries and the next moment it might be about Star Wars. Insert a few compliments here and there to seem fun and outgoing.