19 Feb 2011, 5:00 pm
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I think most people notice minor flaws in other people, but usually those flaws don't turn into something worth remembering or thinking about (kind of like the scenery that passes by while you drive). Hopefully it will be more like that for him someday soon.
I agree Mangos. Therapy, time and maturity all should help contribute to allow him to have these as passing thoughts, not obsessive ones someday.
If you love him, and were willing to go thorough this for 1-1/2yrs, then I'd say give it time.
My husband is also sweet and caring. If I was only looking at every negative aspect of his traits, I'd have broken up with him in the first few months.
I can tell you from experience that you will need patience, understanding, and the ability to put your foot down.
As AardvarkGoodSwimmer said,
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there are apsects of it as a gift
In our home, my husband loves to do small tasks for me regularly 
He is genuine, caring, sweet, loyal....I try to focus on ALL of the great aspects and help him work through the sticky parts of life with him.
