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25 Feb 2011, 12:17 pm

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How is indiscriminate sex not equal to the others if that is what the person wants?

Personally I am not interested in sleeping around, but if other people want to, what is wrong with that? It makes more sense than for those people to get into a marriage they don't want

I agree......one-night stands wouldn't work for me at all, and it's very hard for me to understand why they'd work for anybody (if the sex was good, why not repeat the exercise....if it was bad, why did you bother?). But if people want to go that way, it's their choice, and it might work for them.


In the words of my RE teacher, "you like Indian takeaway, but you wouldn't have it every night." It can get boring doing the same thing with the same person all the time.



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25 Feb 2011, 12:26 pm

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I do. (no pun intended) Then we wouldn't have to worry about all of this.

Although marriages extrapolate to family relationships. (parents and kids, grandkids, cousins, etc)


What just because you can't find someone no one else should be together? Is that what you mean? :?: :roll: :roll:
Yeah this is ridiculously petty. Just cuz you're suffering doesn't mean everyone else has to.



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25 Feb 2011, 12:28 pm

No way.
It makes people happy & happy people are good.
Then again misery loooves company. :roll:



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25 Feb 2011, 12:35 pm

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No way.
It makes people happy & happy people are good.
Then again misery loooves company. :roll:
So true.



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25 Feb 2011, 12:38 pm

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I do think dating is important for finding partners, growing closer and introducing them to your family. But I think it needs a make-over for the next generation to really produce relationships that are based on good things... relationships that will last.


Very insightful. I'd like to hear more about this.

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But before someone gets obsessed with the pressure to have a partner - and that peer pressure is bound to happen no matter what we do to dating ethics - we need to each every person how to accurately calculate their worth and not underestimate themselves. We have to teach people how to believe in themselves. If they don't have any respect for or confidence in themselves, there is no way they can love anyone else. We have to make stronger people.


In other words, individuals should be ready for dating before entering into a relationship. On the other hand, sometimes the right partner can make someone stronger and "more ready." Just some of my thoughts.



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25 Feb 2011, 2:43 pm

I always said that if God had any mercy in him, he would have made us to reproduce asexually.



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26 Feb 2011, 7:01 am

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mindless sex, like bonobos?



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26 Feb 2011, 9:34 am

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I wish the dating scene didn't exist & we had arranged marriages instead


I don't. Arranged marriages take all the wonder out of finding someone you're compatible with. You tell that girl, "Hey, you know that a**hole over there who abuses women and kicks puppies? Well, that's your future husband and you have NO choice in the matter" and she'll never love him. She'll probably hate him and will never get the chance to pursue a life of happiness that she wants. :/



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26 Feb 2011, 10:19 am

Volodja wrote:
How is indiscriminate sex not equal to the others if that is what the person wants?

Personally I am not interested in sleeping around, but if other people want to, what is wrong with that? It makes more sense than for those people to get into a marriage they don't want


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26 Feb 2011, 1:27 pm

I kinda wish I could rip out the part of my brian that makes me like people. That's the root cause of most of my problems right there. Apparently there are medications that can like completely numb you emotionally. I'd kinda like that...



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26 Feb 2011, 7:04 pm

I kinda agree sometimes. Life would be a lot easier if I could quit liking women altogher :P

(I don;t mean I want to turn into some kind of woman-hating nutcase, just that I would have a lot less distraction if I didn't keep falling for completely unattainable women all the time and could just focus on reading, taking photos etc)



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26 Feb 2011, 7:24 pm

Erisad wrote:
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I wish the dating scene didn't exist & we had arranged marriages instead


I don't. Arranged marriages take all the wonder out of finding someone you're compatible with. You tell that girl, "Hey, you know that a**hole over there who abuses women and kicks puppies? Well, that's your future husband and you have NO choice in the matter" and she'll never love him. She'll probably hate him and will never get the chance to pursue a life of happiness that she wants. :/

The dating scene is impossible for some people like me. Women are not attracted to me & only see me as a friend. I've been told by a few older women how they wish their daughters or granddaughters would be interested in me. I like most women after we're friends a while but women will not give me the chance. I would move to another country if I had money, resources & skills to because I think I'd be a a lot better off


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26 Feb 2011, 8:02 pm

nick007 wrote:
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I wish the dating scene didn't exist & we had arranged marriages instead


I don't. Arranged marriages take all the wonder out of finding someone you're compatible with. You tell that girl, "Hey, you know that a**hole over there who abuses women and kicks puppies? Well, that's your future husband and you have NO choice in the matter" and she'll never love him. She'll probably hate him and will never get the chance to pursue a life of happiness that she wants. :/

The dating scene is impossible for some people like me. Women are not attracted to me & only see me as a friend. I've been told by a few older women how they wish their daughters or granddaughters would be interested in me. I like most women after we're friends a while but women will not give me the chance. I would move to another country if I had money, resources & skills to because I think I'd be a a lot better off


But that doesn't mean that it's right to force girls into marriage. You think you'll be happy in a marriage where the girl was only with you because she had no choice? There would be no romance or bond. It would be a master and a servant sort of agreement.

Maybe you could go after some of the older women? Cougars might like you. :twisted:



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26 Feb 2011, 9:23 pm

I'm not a fan of marriage myself, but I never wish it didn't exist. I am indifferent to it. However, I'm glad dating exists.



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27 Feb 2011, 2:21 am

Erisad wrote:
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I wish the dating scene didn't exist & we had arranged marriages instead


I don't. Arranged marriages take all the wonder out of finding someone you're compatible with. You tell that girl, "Hey, you know that a**hole over there who abuses women and kicks puppies? Well, that's your future husband and you have NO choice in the matter" and she'll never love him. She'll probably hate him and will never get the chance to pursue a life of happiness that she wants. :/

The dating scene is impossible for some people like me. Women are not attracted to me & only see me as a friend. I've been told by a few older women how they wish their daughters or granddaughters would be interested in me. I like most women after we're friends a while but women will not give me the chance. I would move to another country if I had money, resources & skills to because I think I'd be a a lot better off


But that doesn't mean that it's right to force girls into marriage. You think you'll be happy in a marriage where the girl was only with you because she had no choice? There would be no romance or bond. It would be a master and a servant sort of agreement.

Maybe you could go after some of the older women? Cougars might like you. :twisted:

I think the woman would fall in love with me after a while because I really would love her & do everything I can to make her happy. I've known people at work from other countries that had arranged marriages & they really did love their partners after a while. I would be open to dating a woman a bit older than me but I'm sure older women would think I'm too immature for a relationship with em


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27 Feb 2011, 2:43 am

I think dating and marriage are the stupidest inventions by humankind. :P



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