Urgent help with Okcupid

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Ok so she viewed my profile at midnight but she hasnt replied to my message yet. Maybe she just hasnt had time? Or maybe she rates loads of guys and just felt sorry for the aspie dude

If you're smart, you'll make no flirts or sexual advances in your first message. Women on these sites get bombarded constantly by guys trolling for booty, and will probably interpret anything with a remotely sexual message as more of the same. Don't even say ANYTHING about her appearance at all unless it's just to say she has a nice smile or something very innocuous. I have never gotten a response to a message where I said the girl was hot, cute, pretty, or any other variation thereof. Just say you liked her profile and you'd like to get to know her. Ask a question maybe about something you have in common, or what music she likes, or w/e.

I sent the message 2 days ago. Didnt say anything about her appearance and mentioned bands we both liked. Nothing in response yet so it's not looking good.

I've had a few like that.

No feedback sucks, but c'est la vie. Try not to dwell.

Those ratings are so random. Most girls do them just for the sake of fun, they are as time-killer and meaningless as eating chips.

Do not build any hope or excitement based on any of the ratings.

What's wrong with OkCupid? I like it.

They worked for me, sort of.

I've learnt my lesson now. I won't be responding to anything like that again.

Jesus what does a guy have to do to get a break in life?

I've had a couple of 4/5 star ratings but have never been into them so have no experience from that side. I have, however, used quickmatch and given people high ratings only to find afterwards (location doesn't appear on the mobile app on quickmatch) that they don't live close enough to me. Could have been something similar.

No mate, according to her profile she lives in Lincoln. It probably just is that she was rating people when she was bored or felt sorry for me or something. Maybe she just cant be arsed to reply when she gets home from work at night and will reply at the weekend? I'm not holding my breath though. I cant imagine a functioning NT woman fancying me in person anyway so it doesnt matter. I probably would've just ended up upset based on past experience.

Well good luck with it anyway. Don't get put off too much by it if no reply materializes, I know it's hard not to, I stuggle myself as I've never had a reply on there but we have to plod on.

Maybe i'll meet someone IRL one day? It's really difficult for me to make the effort to go out and socialise on my own. When i do go out i just do the solitary stuff that i like. Like walking and listening to my Ipod.

I know what you mean, I couldn't just go out alone looking for new friends. I've never been able to.

When you have no friends people always suggest joining a club but what club? IDK a guess i just dont really feel like socialising a lot of time. I would like to be more social . I'm really conflicted and perhaps a little depressed.

I've heard that alot too and been clueless where to go but came across a group last month called Spice which I've joined. I've not been to any events yet but have one booked later in the month it looks like it may be good as there is a fairly wide array of activities. I've joined the Manchester group but there are regional groups around the country, if you're interested go to Spice UK

ta mate. I think some of the East Midlands ones are a bit far to go for pizza and pasta though. I dont have a car.. Even if it had shown up in Lincoln i think my social anxiety plays a large part in me dismissing it. I'm frightened to meet a group of new NTS. There's my local AS group that i go to. I cant see myself developing close friendships or relationships from going to that though.