Gotta get rid of these old memories...they're killing me

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I have no idea why she's doing what she's doing, but I can guess that she's not doing it because she wants to have a relationship with you.

You did great! That's really good progress, but you really ought to move on...if she really is at all interested she'll come after you once she realizes you don't need her.

Don't think about it too much, it was alright enough to go on for 20 minutes. Focus on that. You can't let yourself get all upset when you can't figure out why girls do what they do. The one thing you can count on is if she likes you she will let you know. Girls have jedi powers to be in the right place at the right time. Let it go and move on.

Twenty minutes is respectable.

Respectable?!

Twenty minutes is f*cking heroic!!

Thanks for the compliments and its been a couple weeks already, havent heard from her after i tried to contact her a couple times, I stopped as I didnt wanna seem desperate.

I also deleted her off my friend's list on facebook and erased her number from my phone in an effort to get over her.

I met and arranged the date with her online, it is the only online date ive gotten, i think i have trouble getting online dates as i take bad pictures and say the wrong things perhaps?

Maybe i should try to get dates in person instead?

I think "in person" is always preferable - online dating creates distorted perceptions and unrealistic expectations that really create problems.

I would keep the online profile up, but definitely put more effort into real life IMO...

I've been in the same position you were when I was 19. It was my first kiss/makeout session and she never returned my calls again. I was butt hurt for a few weeks. Recovery will be painful and there's not much to erase the pain then to just wait it out. Memories fade will fade and you can't really hasten the process unless you take drugs (not recommended). All I can say is that as rejections become more common, you kind of get used to it and you'll begin to shrug it off.

Rejections will still be painful, but after awhile you'll learn to be more realistic and put the female less on a pedestal. You'll realize that in most situations, you can't do much to change a female's mind about dating you. There isn't really a situation where you "said the wrong thing." If she's your type she'll look past what you said and accept you. Don't beat yourself up on trying to say the "right" things or act a certain way around her because sooner or later she's going to find out the real you and dump ya anyway. This realization just takes practice and a ton of rejections.

I think the best way to forget about someone is delete their phone number, email, and avoid social media at the risk of seeing her posting on your friend's facebook wall. It prevents you from doing something dumb like trying to beg for a date after a rejection -- massive loss of dignity. Keep your dignity intact and who knows, maybe in a couple of years she'll change her mind? Timing is important.

Yeah I did delete her number from my phone and unfriended her on facebook. I am really butthurt, its the worst feeling in the world.

No, it's the second worst feeling, seeing her wrapped around the arm of an Alpha would be worse.

Gotta count your blessings...

I acted pretty alpha on the date, girls always pick the guy that makes me wanna kick and scream lol

go that from dysentary gary by blink 182, such a good song!