I don't want to date pretty girls.

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Yeah! You miss out!

Plus, I am smitten with another man.

Ouch...

That's your ideal girl:

Yay...I'm not overweight but I don't have bones sticking out either...I'm NORMAL weight by all the charts and my BMI is well within normal limits! That is, I am HEALTHY. I hate it when the "social norms" get skewed to "bony" by the runway models. When someone just ONE dress size larger than myself is labelled a "plus size" model (yes, size 10 is labeled plus size for models) that is seriously messed up.

Thank you for speaking up for us normal sized women!

~Kate

I'm a blonde bimbo

I could see not going for prettier girls if you feel inadequate next to them. I could even see myself feeling this way, but not to the point where I'd outright refuse to go out with one.
It might be easier to form a relationship with someone who didn't make me feel they were too good for me (unintentionally or otherwise).

A recent study that found that most couples are within a 0-2 point difference of attractiveness range, of course this study was a small subset of the population, it's premise was interesting to me, people date & settle down with people that are of equal attraction. I can think of many examples of couples that disprove this study from my personal experience yet most of the examples do not.
Different strokes for different folk's, there are many different likes and dislikes, there are men who look for primarily bbw women, average, short, slim, athletic, never the less many men love all or most of these categories vigorously, just look at he porn market, obese porn....... I am not going to even get into the fetish markets, all heterosexual men desire and constantly think of women.
Me personally, I like qualities like healthy tight skin, long hair, slim or athletic or average, symmetrical facial features, that doesn't mean I haven't dated only these women, in fact, only one of my ex-girlfriends had the qualities I was looking for . This is different in most women, for example there are many many women that would never date a shorter man, I would say the grand majority...etc.. etc... etc...
If I had to psychoanalyze the reasoning behind my dating preferences they would have to be because of a myriad of reasons:
(1) growing up as a boy I was madly in love with a second cousin that my mother was very close to and she was very tall, slender, symmetrical facial features, kind of looked like what Pocahontas's daughter would look like, but in a very sophisticated, elegant, professional manor, she is still married with two kids
(2) I was born very slender and was very slender until age eight where I was victim of a drunk school bus driver......because of a head accident I had to take medicine which side effect was sever weight gain and I did, 100lbs, I hated my self, because my body type was meant to be skinny, I worked hard at loosing it, tried diet pills, weight loss, after no avail I lost it the hard way, diet & exercise, If I literally hate myself having that body type, I probably would be able to value be happy or make happy someone with that body type?
(3) American media & it's effect on us. No explanation needed.

Finally, I wouldn't say that many attractive women are devoid of personality but I would say that they the grand majority (80%) of them are handed any and ever thing they want. Many especially in this day and age have lost their sensitivity, femininity, humanity and have become Parana's.

I would semi-agree with the original post in that I believe there are some attractive women who are so, (1) evil, (2) Prejudice, (3) Insensitive, (4) devoid of a mothering or nurturing instinct, this becomes such a turn off and although sometimes I may still want to sleep with them, I would not consider anything long term or just totally erase them out of my life to the point where I go out of my way never to run across them again.

IE (to previous point I made) (IE this st. paddy's day I went to an appointment, afterward got something to eat alone, missed my train so instead of waiting for the next one, I forced myself to go bar hopping solo, I see a girl who I considered fairly attractive (pale, slightly blemished skin, nearly symmetrical facial features, slender, busty) woman who struck my eye, I approached her non nonchalantly and asked her if her name was Kelly a friend I remembered from college, she muttered to her girlfriend, ugg it's another bar Spanish Mexican and quickly walked away. Her friend was astounded at her behavior and tried to cover for her by coming up with some worthless story in an subliminal attempt to try to apologize for her behavior .. I just told her it was nice to meet her and moved on. That was after an hour of forcing myself to bar hop, I dislike bars, talk to women at that point I just headed to the train and tried talking to a girl there, wound up talking to a divorcee about dating & gender differences in society, but I was too young for her. )

Incorrect - it is very subjective.

Who comes up with this stupid rubbish.. they're generally... more like some of them are as are some ugly people. Some of the sh*ttest personalitys I know come from people who aren't very good looking.

The whole "ugly people have great personalitys.. all good looking people don't! was just made for some people to feel better about themselves.

It's really not true. Not true at all.

Some of the prettiest people I know have amazing personalities. The wrongplanet user "Sunshower" for instance is relly nice and friendly and also interesting and good looking. Look at Emlion, she has more personality than half of us put together and is also friendly and has a lot of life experience. I could go on. But I really don't think I need to. You get some with a huge ego and thats not so cool, but a lot of ugly people have a huge ego too.

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Not true at all.

Just a simple example: all guys in the "The most attractive woman on OKC LB Dating" agreed that the girl there is pretty, and all girls agreed that the guy in 'The most attractive man on NZ Dating" is handsome.

The "Beauty in the eye of the beholder" was created so the non-pretty people can feel better but it is not true at all, we humans have common brain wiring that make us recognize beauty similarly.

True, some people might think that Celeb x is hotter than Celeb y while others think the other way around , but in general they would both agree that both x and y are hot.

Pretty is a common consensus.

I know what you mean.

Generic "hot" Is universal, it's peoples personal tastes that vary. The middle of the bell curve though will be the generic hot.

Who cares that one group of people thought a certain person was the most attractive? Ask another group of people and you'll probably get a different answer.

A lot of these models who are meant to be all pretty are extremely ugly in my opinion. I have a different idea of beauty from that. It is a very subjective thing - in the same way that everyone has their own taste in food, everyone has their own taste in women/men too.

Your'e completely missing his point.

Not at all. There is no one person who everyone would universally agree is attractive. As I said, all these models who are meant to be "beautiful" are ugly in my eyes.

You are.

The point is there is a general look which people think is attractive and it's the middle of the bell curve on peoples tastes on average.

Even if you don't PERSONALLY find them attractive, its more like "I don't think they're attractive but I can sort of see why other people do"

Also I don't think models are that great either. They are clothes models. clothes need to sit on them like a clothes hanger thats why they're so skinny. They aren't supposed to be attractive. They don't have to have a perfect face.