Should I tell her I have AS?

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If you do (and I'm not comfortable saying you should) make it as casual as possible. I did this, and was able to talk about it about with a few different friends. Given time, one falsely remembered my condition as "ADHD, or whatever it was you had", and one forgot about it entirely. All in all I was quite happy with these reactions; they meant my friends didn't take the condition too seriously, but they knew about it, so I could talk about it given a reason. Didn't find reasons often. Seems an awkward thing to talk about.

My guess is if you make it serious or dramatic, you're more likely to deal with negative consequences.

There was actually one girl who liked me more when she learned I had AS, and given that knowledge, she was more tolerant of me than I suspect she would have been otherwise. It also made me more interesting to her.
Still didn't work out, but at least parts of high school were more interesting...

I don't see what you have to lose by telling her, I mean you're not gonna have a relationship with her now, right? Sure, you could lose her as a friend, but what kind of friend would want nothing more to do with you just becasue she found out the reason for your shyness/awkwardness was AS? Finding out someone has AS doesn't change anything about them, just what you know about them. So why would she be bothered by that? I can understand a potential gf being put off by it, but just a friend/colleague? Surely the only thing you could lose is a s**t friend, while on the ther hand you possibly have much to gain by sharing this with her (ie her understanding, trust)

For me this question depends largely on this girl. Is she intelligient enough to grasp the importance of what you are telling her? People could handle this situation in a million different ways based on what type of person they are. I know in my experience there are girls that I would tell and there are girls that I would not tell.
I once asked a World of Warcraft friend of mine if I should reveal the fact that I had AS to this girl I had been talking to. His response was this "Find out if she is worth telling first"
Since I don't know the girl in question I really can't give you a decent answer either way. What do you have to lose by telling her?