Asexual

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If the basic gist is that I only have a sex drive, and only attracted to my partner, while in a relationship, then it's exactly what I am.

Though I'm not very err... 'frisky' even in a relationship. So I'm still not completely sure as to the true name for my own sexuality type.

Either way, it does help that I know that now.

if you're asexual does that mean you never masturbate?

Thank you Bethie haha I guess I mean girls and guys are both awesome so why not be sexually attracted to both

No. It means you're sexually attracted to neither sex.

Plenty of asexuals masturbate, and plenty don't.

Yeah. I'm struggling to separate what sex could be like theoretically versus what I've experienced.
I DEFINITELY don't form physical attraction based on aesthetics, so the "most" sexual I would be is demisexual,
but many of the things I'd (extremely hypothetically) be comfortable doing aren't even considered "real" sex to a lot of people.

I'm perfectly comfortable with anything sexually, I just don't desire it. I'd prefer it if I could have a relationship with little to no sex. But the problem is I still desire it when within a relationship.

I suppose I only want it like once in a while. But only with a person I'm with at the time. However, outside a relationship, I have no desire to even masterbate. :\ It's been two months since I had any sexual experience and I'm told most people would be going mad or masterbating.

Idk what to believe.

For those who only experience sexual attraction when in a relationship, how do you get that kind of relationship started without having any sexual attraction? I've been told that if you're not sexually attracted to someone you can only be "Just Friends".

Well, that's obviously not true for Demis and Asexuals, eh?

Sexuals have a hard time separating romantic attraction from the urge to have sex with someone,
because one (it would seem) always brings the other for them.
Which is fine.
So long as they don't declare that sexual attraction is REQUIRED for romantic attraction,
because that's flatout denying the experiences of Asexuals and Demisexuals, and maybe even a few Sexuals, proper.

"Theory of Mind".

I am almost certainly aromantic asexual for those unfamiliar with asexuality please go to www.asexuality.org this site is very useful and had a lot of great info for those who are learning about it. Beleive me romance and sex is just as foreign to me as it is to not have it to those who do experience it like gays and straights I guess. Also look asexual up on wikipedia there is a good article there.

Fact. People on the autism spectrum have differences in sensory processing. They may be over-responsive or under-responsive to sight, sound, touch, taste, smell, balance and their position in space. If they are over-responsive to touch, for example, they may not be able to tolerate certain types of clothing. If they are under-responsive to sound, they may appear deaf at times. This is thought to be why being aromantic/asexual is higher (but not exclusive) in AS it is 17% to 1% of the general population. In other words you can be really sexual or totally not sexual or romantic if you are aspie or in the middle but the first two are more common. To me it is just as foreign concept feeling sexual and romantic feelings as it is to you who can't understand how we feel.

if you're not attracted to either sex, than what are you fantasizing about while masturbating?

You'd have to ask the individual person.
Personally, I don't fantasize when I masturbate at all.

I guess a women doesn't have to fantasize when they pleasure themselves. I know my ex didn't, but when I'd help her pleasure herself, eventually she'd want me to have sex with her if she got turned on enough.

I find sex and the acts that lead up to it kind of overwhelming, so I never really would enjoy it as much as pleasuring myself. I guess I have to do it more to get used to it.

I've spoken with asexual men over @ AVEN who don't fantasize, either.

I can't imagine being with a guy who wanted to "help".

Meaning, I would be the one pleasuring her.

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