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I'd say the child is the only one that was tolerated in your scenarios. You killed the bee, and you grabbed a weapon to defend yourself with the robber. Neither are acts of tolerance.

You can choose how long you will tolerate certain things/people, but there is no varying degrees of tolerance otherwise.

No such thing as the one in my opinion unless you're looking at it from a mystical point of view, where we are anything and everything.

As far as soul mates are concerned, I believe we each have hundreds +

A lot of people have later divorced "the one."

It comes from the idea that emotions are written in stone, and they come from the "emotion fairy." But it leaves little room for flexibility.

Very Well Put!! !

Emotions can change like the wind, and nobody is predictable. Relationships should never be based on order and predictability because relationships are never like that.

i think that there usually is at least one person that we can be compatible with in a lifetime, but the correct circumstances don't always align in such a way to allow a relationship to occur. i honestly don't know if there is such a thing as "The One". it seems to involve a certain amount of faith, which i tend to lack in general.

Used to believe in the concept, when I was like 15. Don't any more. If we can find someone we love and who loves us, who we can coexist with each other's flaws, whom we make happy and who makes us happy, there's no need to look for "the one". S/he might very well not exist. Or might, and have some flaw that makes a relationship with him/her impossible. *shrug*

~Kate

I never thought about it. Now that you made me think, I've concluded that "The One" is an absurd, childish concept. Everyone has their differences, no matter how well they get along. And, from what I've seen so far, every relationship stagnates as time goes by. That's why I don't want to marry: why bother with a contractual obligation when I'm fully aware that it almost certainly will bring problems to both parties later on?

The one doesn't exist. Period.

There can only be one

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I have to be careful here in case the SO ever joins this community...lol.

I don't believe in 'The One' as we change so much throughout our lives, it is totally impossible to even think that someone could change with you in order to remain with you throughout - you may well have one person who remains the love of your life till the day you die, but regardless 'The One' isn't a reality, it's an idea based in pure fantasy fed to us throughout our lives. *fist-shakes* DAMN YOU DISNEY!

I do believe in 'The One That Got Away' in that I think we all have one person who we maybe thought was 'The One' or something close to that idea, as time goes on we forget that this person had flaws or was unsuitable for us...we build this person up, they become some mythos in our lives that turn tragedy by fanning the idea that there is 'The One' and we can't have them.

I think that the idea of 'The One' is unrealistic and harmful.

They say youhave three soulmates in your life in which you will find....so far I have seen none.

I don't believe in "The One", but I do believe that there is some"one", that comes pretty close.

The longest and best relationship I've been in, I knew he was "the one" from almost the second I met him. 5 months? We were living together, sharing finances, engaged and pregnant by then. Of course, we didn't do the whole "going on dates" charade at all- we learned all about each other almost immediately.

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I got the impression "the SO"(Just to replace the more contentious "The one" language) would 'just understand' what you're saying, your frame of mind, your intention and just "understand you" such that guarded words wouldn't be needed. Though, during the "getting to know you process", it might be appropriate to guard ones words to let them 'learn about you' before scaring them off, lol. But, then again, 'the SO' just understands you in an immediate way like you're their long lost psychological twin, so the 'learning about you' process doesn't have a steep learning curve if there's a learning curve at all.

Using this definition of "The SO", I wonder how this has implications for those with communication problems that's universal with everyone? Like maybe for a person that has universal receptive and expressive communication problems. Would a person who 'perfectly communicates' have far more potential "The Significant Others" than someone who communicates less-than-adequately? Assuming there's a connection between the amount of time it takes to find "The significant other" and the amount of potential "The significant others" in this world, that seems to be the case. Especially since "clear communicator" is a seemingly universally attractive trait among mates and employees alike.