How to make anyone fall in love with you

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19 Apr 2011, 5:27 pm

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You can't make people fall in love with you any more than you can make money fall from the sky.

You can't quote on quote make any individual fall in love with you, but you can help yourself find another person that might be compatible with you and persuade them to love through subtle cues.

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Such books are all set of theories that only works/ed for the authors.

No, because in the book they point to
*seminars in which they used the techniques
*friends in their life that it either worked or didn't work for
*legitimate research that focused on specific things

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Or didn't work for anyone, but the authors need to pay their rent and don't want a proper job.

Then why is it TOTALLY FREE???

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Of course, if you have AS and you don't understand how to interpret such actions...well, you're just gonna have to figure that out on your own.

Exactly, except not. It points out THE EXACT body language that you are supposed to have for different situations, how much eye contact, and what to say, etc, etc

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I've read books like that, and those things do work, but you have to be a certain type of person to pull it off consistently enough for it to actually work. That's like training with Kobe Bryant every day in order to become an NBA player. Even if I had the size, I would never get to the NBA.

But the thing is, you can change some of your tendencies to become that type of person. For instance, one of the things is to give compliments (one of the chapters I just read), I know it has specific compliments (empathizers, knock-outs, and indirect) and they are for different situations (for anyone, someone you want to blow away, and someone who kinda knows you like them). Before, I didn't know that. Now am I going to become a player player, probably not, but I am not going to be carissa the clueless anymore because the unwritten rules of love's social interactions are being written down for me in a way that I understand.

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As it is, I have the looks and adaptability to be good, but I'll never be great. Even then, I don't want to be good. I don't want lots of women. Hell, I don't even want to deal with one.

Oh, I just read about that too, it says that certain traits are like commodities, and looks, and personality are 2 of the 6 traits , so you just need (if you ever consider it) someone who balances you or has the same.

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Although this attitude makes approaching women very easy for me, it makes sustaining any relationship very hard, because as it turns out, your actions have to match your intended desires. And THAT, my dear Watson, is the secret.

Yes, but in the book, it explains also how to find out what the other person's desires are. If betsy wants a close relationship, and joe wants his space, then that relationship isn't going to work unless they 1. communicate about what they think love is 2. Work to make it so both of them get what they want from the relationship

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19 Apr 2011, 5:30 pm

Stab them with a fork then look deep into their eyes and then kiss them

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19 Apr 2011, 5:33 pm

Step 1: Get rich.
Step 2: Get laid.

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19 Apr 2011, 5:35 pm

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No, because in the book they point to
*seminars in which they used the techniques
*friends in their life that it either worked or didn't work for
*legitimate research that focused on specific things

Oh please, give me a break. What all those really prove?

Once you master this book , try to use your newly-learned skill on me.

I assure you that it won't work.

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19 Apr 2011, 7:07 pm

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Step 1: Get rich.
Step 2: Get laid.

Interesting that you mention that because that is one of the qualities that are regarded as commodities in the love
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Oh please, give me a break. What all those really prove?

Once you master this book , try to use your newly-learned skill on me.

I assure you that it won't work.

Those prove that in a majority of cases, but there will always be exceptions.

I won't because I'm assuming you think of love as a different thing than me.

I already eliminated that step from the book, therefore, I don't need to because I am pretty sure that we wouldn't be compatible.

Plus, you are being cynical, so I am assuming that you wouldn't be open to them, plus it is over a computer it is not the same as in person. (I'm pretty good with social stuff online, but I am looking for real world stuff). But I am ...flattered...that you asked.

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19 Apr 2011, 8:42 pm

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Make a tincture of vaginal fluid when you're ovulating, or semen if you're a male with a high sperm count, and dab a tad on your wrists.

Erm, what?

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19 Apr 2011, 9:23 pm

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@ bethie

That is disgusting, it belongs in the adult forum.

That will not make someone fall in love with you.

That post made me fall in love.

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19 Apr 2011, 9:49 pm

Starlight-Supernova wrote:

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Make a tincture of vaginal fluid when you're ovulating, or semen if you're a male with a high sperm count, and dab a tad on your wrists.

Erm, what?

Some NTs employ a form of humor called "absurd silliness". This would be an example of that.

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20 Apr 2011, 4:50 am

swbluto wrote:

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Make a tincture of vaginal fluid when you're ovulating, or semen if you're a male with a high sperm count, and dab a tad on your wrists.

Erm, what?

Some NTs employ a form of humor called "absurd silliness". This would be an example of that.

Not just NT's, apparently- I truly did think it was absurd enough that people would know it wasn't serious.

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20 Apr 2011, 4:51 am

Be assured that a walk through the seas of most souls would scarcely get your feet wet. Fall not in love, therefore, it will stick to your face.

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20 Apr 2011, 5:59 am

Bethie wrote:

swbluto wrote:

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Bethie wrote:

Make a tincture of vaginal fluid when you're ovulating, or semen if you're a male with a high sperm count, and dab a tad on your wrists.

Erm, what?

Some NTs employ a form of humor called "absurd silliness". This would be an example of that.

Not just NT's, apparently- I truly did think it was absurd enough that people would know it wasn't serious.

In the humor department, it seems that most of the milder "asperger females" are pretty NT-like, most of the time. The only *major* thing that seems to make AS females different from NT females seems to be literalness and possibly body language clueless-ness in more extreme cases.

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20 Apr 2011, 7:14 am

swbluto wrote:

I'm not in any sense "mild" as far as my Aspergers.
But thanks.

I can use non-literal language, but can't recognize it. At all.
My humor's quite consistent with someone who's removed from social norms- it ranges from absurd to inappropriate to extremely offensive.

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20 Apr 2011, 7:30 am

Bethie wrote:

I can use non-literal language, but can't recognize it. At all.

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My humor's quite consistent with someone who's removed from social norms- it ranges from absurd to inappropriate to extremely offensive.

I've hypothesized there's "socially normal" and then "Uncommon but still fundamentally normal". I think offensiveness/inappropriateness is somewhere between the two as it's not that uncommon, but absurdity requires an ability that seems pretty rare.

Hey, does this headline catch you offguard?

"Concern fills silver mining valley."

(When I first read it, I was like "How can an abstract concept fill a valley like water?", but then I figured out about 10 seconds later that, oh, maybe they're referring to the people in the valley. I'm not sure if that's a case of aspie-like literalness or something more... let's say... not quite 'with it'. :lol:

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20 Apr 2011, 7:35 am

swbluto wrote:

Bethie wrote:

I can use non-literal language, but can't recognize it. At all.

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My humor's quite consistent with someone who's removed from social norms- it ranges from absurd to inappropriate to extremely offensive.

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I interpreted it the same way. I (and some of my psychiatrists) have questioned with I have Aspergers or HFA. I'm..."accelerated" cognitively, and tee-totally effed up in all other aspects. I'm the obnoxious know it all with a phenomenal memory at every gathering who corrects people compulsively and can talk for hours about several subjects, only no one wants to hear it. Except I have a vagina, which just means I'm a b*tch.

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20 Apr 2011, 7:45 am

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Stab them with a fork then look deep into their eyes and then kiss them

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20 Apr 2011, 7:49 am

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Stab them with a fork then look deep into their eyes and then kiss them

look them in their eyes? are you trying to get us into the mother of all meltdowns? seriously...

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