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MrMark
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03 Aug 2006, 6:06 am

selimsivad wrote:
Really, people don't love each other, but an image of their beloved that they have created in their minds.
It's true, we fall in love with an illusion. When we become dis-illusioned and see our beloved as they really are, we make a choice to leave or to stay and love (as an action) and accept our imperfect lover as they really are. Remember, it's practice for learning to love and accept everyone and everything as is, and experiencing the joy that comes with that unconditional love.


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03 Aug 2006, 9:34 pm

Enigmatic_Oddity wrote:
I think this is a question many of us ask ourselves. Even when doing something that seems at first glance virtuous and altruistic, we wonder whether we're really acting out of purely selfish reasons. When we become cynical, we bring those beliefs to our way of perceiving ourselves just as much as to our perceptions of everyone else.

This is probably it. Since I've never had a girlfriend, and this was the first time I've experienced a real connection, I guess I have no idea how I'm supposed to feel.



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04 Aug 2006, 4:44 am

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we Aspies generally have a hard time with them; it's hard for us to sense the psychological "games" going on in those kinds of interactions).

This is more of a societal problem then an "aspie" problem, to me someone who is not willing to be straight with me is not worth my time to begin with. Sure it might limit my options, but are the other options really worth it?



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04 Aug 2006, 1:10 pm

jman wrote:
This is more of a societal problem then an "aspie" problem, to me someone who is not willing to be straight with me is not worth my time to begin with. Sure it might limit my options, but are the other options really worth it?


My opinion: if you have any real knowledge of self or high emotional intelligence no, its misery. If someone has a low EQ though and is happy just playing the field and racking up the points then it may suite them well enough.