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Tbh, yea, this is not looking good. But give her a second chance,a third and even a fourth. Some people just don't answer phones much.

if she doesn't respond after that, then you know what to do (hint: moving on).

Some people hate phones. I never answer mine. Have you tried emailing or texting her?

Do what hale_bopp tell you.

Well after saying "sorry the phone is up stairs on charge", why not just ask what i wanted to say?. It's not as if i'm a stranger we went out and we had a kiss ffs, she should be excited to hear my voice again. If she's too nervous but prefer's facebook a hi wouldn't go a miss. Atleast i tried to talk to her first. The woman before this do this to me, she'd message long messages back and forth on okcupid but when i got her mobile she'd never answer the phone and text messages would be like 6hrs apart!. These girls have their mobiles on them all the bloody time.

Hate being messed about and being autistic it's hard enough as it is, it seems so hard to find the right one

Be a little more patient...

Give it a try for a week.

I decided to ask on her facebook how she was and she replied pretty quickly that she was doing well and asked how i was too with a kiss...

It could be that she hates using the phone as some of you said

Well good luck and I hope it works out for you.

You can try to contact her a couple of more times, but if she doesn't reply or it doesn't go anywhere, let it go.

I've "parted ways" with guys by avoiding them because I want to be nice but suck at lying (apparently you're supposed to tell them that your work schedules are too different).

I would prefer a more direct approach: "I don't want to go on with you". Period.

Be direct, girls, be direct.

Look at WeatherFreak how frustrated, over-thinking and sad he is ...this is simply cruel, this what you're exactly doing to the guy with this very common girly strategy of subtle rejection.

Ah- no, that was a little overboard. Sorry, I think you may have blown that one. Live and learn, eh?

People aren't glued to their phones so you won't always get an immediate reply. In situations like this, it's probably best to only contact her once and leave the ball in her court; by all means, wait by the telephone if you must but don't let on to her!

Better luck next time


Then we get called frigid biatches. Not all guys like being dumped on their asses and we're not mind readers. Also, anyone not autistic or drunk usually picks up on the 'not into you signs' pretty quickly.

I'm confused how have i blown it?, i waited to the next day to call give her time to think about the date... She was on facebook, online and i called her she didn't answer. So again where's the problem?, my comment was made in jest with a smiley face... I called 5mins later , which would be the second call. Christ i just wanted to talk, i was going to ask her out for another date. Again where's the problem, calling twice isn't murder. I did NOTHING wrong in the date, she had a great time and so did i, so basically i've blown any future with her because she won't answer her god damn phone atleast once?

All these f'ing mind games , if you like someone TELL THEM don't ignore them

And what's the point of saying " i was wondering when we'd get the chance to talk ", IF SHE DOESN'T BLOODY ANSWER

Waiting till next day: good move

Contacting her more than once and nagging her to pick up the phone: bad move. Sends out weird vibes. It isn't murder but it will freak people out, regardless of how well the date went.

Sorry, I'm not trying to be patronising, just breaking it down a little. Her reply... yeah, I wouldn't read too much into it; at this stage of dating you're still in the 'polite small talk' phase so everything needs a large dollup of salt.

This is the thing, if you read many many dating sites they all say the same thing to call once if no pick up then call again and leave a voicemail. I did this the other day before our date she still never replied but i still went out on the date. I did the same today but without the voicemail, calling twice in a day really isn't a bad thing. I was expecting her to be excited to hear from me, because the date went so well and we kissed. Not to get the cold shoulder . Some sites say to call 2 days later some day alot more, others say if you feel there is a connection don't wait call the next day. And nagging her, i really don't see how saying " you can answer the phone i want bite, smile " is nagging!. I'd hate to be in a relationship if the other person felt that was nagging, because i should be a manic depressive the amount of times i've had nagging.

i agree with Lene.

you called 3 times or something already, and your joke about not biting would have put me off, personally. if you are already calling that many times after one date and seeming to have an undercurrent of annoyance if i don't answer, it would come across way too intense.

better to call once. she will see that you called, and return your call (or not).

2 TIMES not 3 first time maybe she didn't hear the phone, second time ok i'll leave it now , Calling someone twice on the day after isn't the end of the world!

Women seriously if a bloke calls and you don't want to talk to him, text him you are busy and will call back later or just say you don't like talking on the phone.

In future i won't use the phone at all, i'll stick with text or emails because frankly it just does more damage than it's worth

Last edited by WeatherFreak on 24 Apr 2011, 8:31 am, edited 1 time in total.

first call


second call


third call, or am i missing something here?