Flirting advice - how not to look creepy

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That bluntness works sometimes and doesn't work other times. I've had it work remarkably well with some girls and remarkably poorly with other girls. Whether or not something works is just a combination of chance and how good you are at reading people.

There was this girl that gave me all the non-verbal come-on signals before I even talked to her once. Her eyes popped out of her head a bit when I made direct eye contact with her and she was all smiley. She'd always initiate eye contact with me at random events despite the fact that we've never spoken. Since I was somewhat involved with another woman I wasn't so crazy about the last time this happened, I had my friend give her my number.

It backfired really badly. She had no idea what he was talking about and actually appeared to be into my friend she had never even seen before. Now whenever I bump into this girl, she looks really uncomfortable. Whoops.

Lesson learned: approach women yourself. More importantly, do not have your extremely good looking friend do this 8th grade sort of request for you. This could've been something had I not taken such a cowardly approach, lol. What do you guys think, though? Do you think she would've been more forgiving if she liked me?

Sorry to hear that.

That sort of approach could work if you send a female "Wing" to introduce you to them. Girls like guys who look good with women. If you look like you know how to have a good time with another female, your attractiveness points go through the roof with all the other females in the room. They can assume she's a friend, co-worker, relative, etc, but all they see is you anyways so doesn't really matter.

As for your story, I think she'll like any attractive guy who approaches her and this is further proof that he could have gone up to her and told her about some lame hobby of his, and he's still get her. Very little of attraction is what you say. He could go up to her and literally lie about you, bragging about you in every way, and if his body language is sexy, and his tonality and facial expressions are as well, she will only see a sexy guy, who looks and sounds sexy.

You already know the signs of interest before you meet someone..., especially if they continually comply by giving you looks whenever you are around... what you have left to do is learn how to handle the tension and build on that when you meet them, and all the way through the interaction till you get her number, get in bed with her, or confirm a date. It takes work and lots of failure, but is attainable.