Anyone else just feel like giving up?

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This. But more importantly, the longer I'm single, the better I feel about it. When a relationship goes down the drain that's when I become bitter and disgusted about it. But somehow, I'm not that depressed about it right now.

I already have.

I've had only one real girlfriend before. We broke up a few weeks ago because she "didn't love me like I loved her." Such a pitty. It was just 4 days away from our first anniversery too. Anyway, I digress. After having countless failed attempts at finding love, being successful once, then discovering how much it hurt to be left, I've decided that I should just stay single. Most girls seem to be fine with me being their quirky, obssesive, monotone friend, and if I admit I have strong feelings towards any of them, I just end up losing a friend. It's better off that I just keep my mouth shut, and stay single.

I gave up a long time ago. I am 51. I gave up at 30. Never dated anyone. It's sad because the expectation is that there is someone out there for everyone.

It's a lie.

I have to agree, i dont really believe there is someone for everyone. Maybe there is, ive just no reason to believe it.
I should also learn from my own mistakes, and NEVER tell anyone how i feel, ive no chance with them and it ruins a friendship. I might learn this one this time.

Im quite happy single, so i should just be happy with other things ive got in life too. I just have to stick to be unsociable, because when i socialise, i start to want things that i cant have, and it hurts too much.

Ive pretty much given up. Im not happy single but I just dont see that changing anyhow.

I agree with both of you. I’d also add that having an at least satisfactory life outside seeking a relationship has made me more able and willing to pursue someone of interest when they have appeared, as well as better at dealing with the failure of those efforts.

Giving up? Definitely. It is sometimes the rational course. Time and again I meet someone, and allow myself to hope that at last I will not be alone, and then they gradually lose interest because I am too different. It doesn't matter what I do - people say they want "intelligent, caring, hard working, genuine" etc., but their actions say they really want "similar." You can be as devoted as you like, put in all the effort you like, be as witty and gentlemanly as you like, what matters is similarity, as any dating site will tell you. If you are very different then, by definition, there is nobody like you. Therefore you will always be alone. To try to find a friend is to torment yourself needlessly: why make life worse than it already is?

Giving up is a wise choice. The only thing worse than being lonely is having hope, and seeing that hope die, time and time again, in extreme slow motion so you don't miss a single moment of the pain.

Bitterness helps as well. Anger is therapeutic. Anger at people who say, because there is someone for them, that there is someone for everyone. Well it's very nice for you I am sure, but statistically some people are simply too different. There will always be outliers. Accept us and stop tormenting us with false hope. And anger at people who say money does not matter when measurably it does (do you want examples?). Anger at people who imply that the only reason for lacking friends is because one is creepy or lazy (the opposite case could be made: the creepiest and laziest people I know have the most friends).

I will finish with my all time favorite demotivational poster. From an evolutionary perspective this is no joke: it is perfectly true. Accept the bad and embrace it.

I think I will probably die a virgin. After having been rejected so many times I am farily certain that I will never find a woman who will love me back in the same way that I love her. All of them either already have boyfriends, are already married or simple unavailable or not interested for one reason or another.

I wish so much that I was asexual and not having to endure the grief that I am enduring right now.

I would LOVE to give up, I just keep meeting people that screw it up for me...

I often feel like just giving up yet, being lonely is a terrible thing. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. Being rejected is incredibly painful but not as bad, perhaps, as is having noone close to talk to.

Never give up.

For me I am happiest when I am alone. I find people too hard to "read" I would be spending most of my time wondering what they ment by saying something or trying to figure out why she did something. Releationships for me are very short lived for me but I still flirt when I meet someone I like I guess you gotta to keep plugging away you never no if she is the one or not.

I feel like giving up. I'm nearly 29, never had a girl in my life, and I can't see why that would suddenly change now. I feel too old to be looking. My parents were married at my age.

I've been rejected and friendzoned so many times that I just don't think it's worth it anymore.

I've pretty much given up. I've had one... thing... which kind of became some sort of quantum paradox and ended before it began. I'm completely over her, but it has definitely skewed my perspective on being able to actually have a relationship. :/