ValentineWiggin
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21 May 2011, 8:07 am
21 May 2011, 10:16 am
21 May 2011, 10:41 am
ToadOfSteel wrote:
Meow101 wrote:
I have a profile there and I'm real 
I have met 3 people from there and they're all real. Two of the three are very nice people. The third, well, let's just say he wasn't all he said he was.
Thing is, there are TONS of sleazy guys on OKC, many of whom are looking for a one night stand. If that's not what you're looking for and you're a woman, you're going to have to weed through lots of those. I don't even stay on the site very long because I get freaks IMing me "hey baby wanna hook up?" Like really, dude, I'm not going to jump in my car and go meet you NOW, without ever having talked to you. Also, I'm in my 40s and I even get 24 year old guys messaging me sometimes, so the age thing is kinda loose (and I have an age range of 30-55 on my profile). If you weed through the freaks you might find someone nice.
~Kate
I have met 3 people from there and they're all real. Two of the three are very nice people. The third, well, let's just say he wasn't all he said he was. Thing is, there are TONS of sleazy guys on OKC, many of whom are looking for a one night stand. If that's not what you're looking for and you're a woman, you're going to have to weed through lots of those. I don't even stay on the site very long because I get freaks IMing me "hey baby wanna hook up?" Like really, dude, I'm not going to jump in my car and go meet you NOW, without ever having talked to you. Also, I'm in my 40s and I even get 24 year old guys messaging me sometimes, so the age thing is kinda loose (and I have an age range of 30-55 on my profile). If you weed through the freaks you might find someone nice.
~Kate
The sleaze makes it worse for genuine men as well... I for one do what I can to write a thoughtful message based on what was said in the profile, and even though I'm not even on there for sex, I must have been grouped into the sleaze for some reason... because very few ever respond to me (which is hurtful), and even fewer respond to a followup or try to strike conversation (which is also hurtful)
That is absolutely true...the two guys from OKC that I've continued to see have both said it's hard to meet women on there because of all the sleazy guys and that they're glad I weeded through the freaks. If someone seems genuine (like if they write a thoughtful message and they talk about things other than hooking up) and I like them, I try to get a real email address so I don't have to spend a lot of time on the site, to avoid getting "pounced on" by the sleaze. The fact that there are more men than women (as is the case with most dating sites) means that women, unfortunately, have to deal with the sleazebuckets. If you are corresponding with someone you like, it might help to exchange email addresses early on, so that she's not discouraged from talking to you because she has to hang around OKCupid to do it...LOL.
~Kate
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21 May 2011, 11:36 am
21 May 2011, 11:57 am
Lerena wrote:
Fresh and gullible, lovely. Is it that hard to believe that some women my age actually mean what they put in their profile? I'm looking for men ages 18-22, maybe 23 if we're pushing it just a little.
While yes I'm young, I don't want older men using that as an excuse to hit on me.
Genuine men are a bit difficult to find, and sadly the only genuine man who's even read my profile is too old for me to consider.
This is why I avoid dating sites; because people on there are too old for me and they seem targeted towards a more "mature" audience.
While yes I'm young, I don't want older men using that as an excuse to hit on me.
Genuine men are a bit difficult to find, and sadly the only genuine man who's even read my profile is too old for me to consider.
This is why I avoid dating sites; because people on there are too old for me and they seem targeted towards a more "mature" audience.
Thing is, you need to keep in mind that younger men of say, 18 to 26 who use the dating websites are likely not to be looking for a real relationship (aka long term, leading to marriage, etc) since...well, they're young. Unlike young women, a young adult man is not really looking for that just yet. Hence you will find so many that will hook up with you, spend a few dates and try to get into your pants ...and dump you when it gets old. Not saying that many have found their lifelong mates there though, just saying that there is a big difference in the purpose and reasons for which guys your age range and older men use that website.
Its up to you to decide why you have a profile there and what it is you are looking for. If you just want to date and have a good time but nothing serious then yes, older guys will be creepy for you. If you are seriously looking for a partner in life then chances are the younger guys will not fit the bill. Women mature a lot faster than men do so you, at 19, are at an equivalent level of maturity to that of a 25~30 yrd old male. You will notice that most guys 18-25 will still behave like teenagers.
In any case, you are in control of who you choose to reply to.
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21 May 2011, 12:04 pm
Dantac wrote:
Lerena wrote:
Fresh and gullible, lovely. Is it that hard to believe that some women my age actually mean what they put in their profile? I'm looking for men ages 18-22, maybe 23 if we're pushing it just a little.
While yes I'm young, I don't want older men using that as an excuse to hit on me.
Genuine men are a bit difficult to find, and sadly the only genuine man who's even read my profile is too old for me to consider.
This is why I avoid dating sites; because people on there are too old for me and they seem targeted towards a more "mature" audience.
While yes I'm young, I don't want older men using that as an excuse to hit on me.
Genuine men are a bit difficult to find, and sadly the only genuine man who's even read my profile is too old for me to consider.
This is why I avoid dating sites; because people on there are too old for me and they seem targeted towards a more "mature" audience.
Thing is, you need to keep in mind that younger men of say, 18 to 26 who use the dating websites are likely not to be looking for a real relationship (aka long term, leading to marriage, etc) since...well, they're young. Unlike young women, a young adult man is not really looking for that just yet. Hence you will find so many that will hook up with you, spend a few dates and try to get into your pants ...and dump you when it gets old. Not saying that many have found their lifelong mates there though, just saying that there is a big difference in the purpose and reasons for which guys your age range and older men use that website.
Its up to you to decide why you have a profile there and what it is you are looking for. If you just want to date and have a good time but nothing serious then yes, older guys will be creepy for you. If you are seriously looking for a partner in life then chances are the younger guys will not fit the bill. Women mature a lot faster than men do so you, at 19, are at an equivalent level of maturity to that of a 25~30 yrd old male. You will notice that most guys 18-25 will still behave like teenagers.
In any case, you are in control of who you choose to reply to.
It is misconceptions like this part of the reason I dont message anyone. I dont know where you live but where I do pretty much every girl is out there to party and get some. Which I am trying to avoid a bit. Its not that one matures faster than the other, its what society finds they should be doing. It just happens that people that say the same as you give guys the idea to keep being that way because it is what to be expected of them.
21 May 2011, 12:25 pm
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