un-worthy wrote:
Girls get way too much attention on OkCupid, there were probably five other guys competing for the spot. You got an interview, that's better than most people. Also, she contacted *you*...most of the time it's the other way around!
+1
If they're even reasonably attractive they supposedly get something like 10 or 20 emails a day, half of them "Hey, lets get together and f---". I tend to like the rare instances when they do reach out and contact, its a sign that perhaps they might know something or gleen something from my profile that tells them I might be the right guy, as for papering - what I hate about that approach - you'd have to throw most of your standards out the window and start sending emails to anyone who's above 50 or 60% match who's even reasonably attractive. By the time you're done with that, if you went in actually looking for the right person, you completely blew away you're initial reason for going there and by the time you do get a response and its down in the 60's, two emails back and forth and you'll both see there was no point. If you can think of maybe the three people on the whole system in your area who you would date, odds are you can send out three emails and get three nonresponses.
And I understand why its like this, apparently a lot of guys are pigs. At this point my trick is simply refusing to whip and lash myself for being single, for how this world works it makes no sense to think that way.
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