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29 Jun 2011, 11:39 am

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There's plenty of time for it though.. I mean there is no time limit for it.

However, the more time passes by the more you get hurt. The more you get hurt the thicker walls you build around yourself. The thicker the walls are... Well it's obvious.
I don't mean to bring The_Face_of_Boo or anyone else down. It's just the way I feel about myself.

It is a logical reaction in some respect. But in the long run it can be quite unhealthy and detremental to your growth. But breaking down those walls doesn't have to be at risk of being hurt again or exposing yourself.

Can you expand upon this, Laz? How does this work?

I don't get how being without a primary relationship is inherently hurtful. :?:

You don't have to go through life moping because you haven't got a b/g friend

I don't mean to say it cannot be a source of suffering for some, or even many, I just don't think it really has to be.

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29 Jun 2011, 11:40 am

Moog wrote:

mv wrote:

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There's plenty of time for it though.. I mean there is no time limit for it.

Can you expand upon this, Laz? How does this work?

I don't get how being without a primary relationship is inherently hurtful. :?:

You don't have to go through life moping because you haven't got a b/g friend

I don't mean to say it cannot be a source of suffering for some, or even many, I just don't think it really has to be.

It's fairly damaging if you're not asexual. Me, I'm a complete horndog, but I'm incapable of casual sex. If there were a female equivalent of DSB, I'd have it.

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29 Jun 2011, 11:43 am

mv wrote:

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mv wrote:

Laz wrote:

keira wrote:

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There's plenty of time for it though.. I mean there is no time limit for it.

Can you expand upon this, Laz? How does this work?

I don't get how being without a primary relationship is inherently hurtful. :?:

You don't have to go through life moping because you haven't got a b/g friend

I don't mean to say it cannot be a source of suffering for some, or even many, I just don't think it really has to be.

It's fairly damaging if you're not asexual. Me, I'm a complete horndog, but I'm incapable of casual sex. If there were a female equivalent of DSB, I'd have it.

I'm not asexual.

What's a DSB?

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29 Jun 2011, 12:02 pm

Moog, I PM'd you!

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29 Jun 2011, 12:53 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

This may be true if you are comparing someone who just got a break up some month ago to someone who never experienced love in his life, but on the long run it is the latter who will remain less satisfied in life and still wondering "what it is even like....?". The former is also more likely to experience them again while the latter is more likely to never experience anything of this, an idea that sometimes would horrify him/her, the latter is more likely to have a feeling of always being kinda deprived in life.

Please don't compare them...

There is no real answer on that, it varies from everyone's experience.

The most precious thing is always things which we have never possessed before in our lives.

Sorry. I am saying Cliches.

Read books, or do some practicals....Then the emptiness may eventually blown away by wind..

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29 Jun 2011, 1:02 pm

I can only speak for myself, but the thought of 'saving' someone from a life of solidarity isn't particularly attractive. Been there, done that... ended badly.

My advice is learn to be happy alone.

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29 Jun 2011, 1:19 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I can only speak for myself, but the thought of 'saving' someone from a life of solidarity isn't particularly attractive. Been there, done that... ended badly.

My advice is learn to be happy alone.

TeaEarlGreyHot, I am not asking anyone to 'save' me from my life of loneliness, and there's nothing in my post that implies a such wish.

Don't worry, you don't have to save me either.

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29 Jun 2011, 1:23 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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I can only speak for myself, but the thought of 'saving' someone from a life of solidarity isn't particularly attractive. Been there, done that... ended badly.

My advice is learn to be happy alone.

TeaEarlGreyHot, I am not asking anyone to 'save' me from my life of solidarity, and there's nothing in my post that implies a such wish.

Don't worry, you don't have to save me either.

Then what's this all about, oh wise Boo?

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29 Jun 2011, 1:28 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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I can only speak for myself, but the thought of 'saving' someone from a life of solidarity isn't particularly attractive. Been there, done that... ended badly.

My advice is learn to be happy alone.

TeaEarlGreyHot, I am not asking anyone to 'save' me from my life of solidarity, and there's nothing in my post that implies a such wish.

Don't worry, you don't have to save me either.

Then what's this all about, oh wise Boo?

It's obvious what's it all about and "begging someone to save me" is just in your head, wise Tea.

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29 Jun 2011, 1:32 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

It's obvious what's it all about and "begging someone to save me" is not one of them , wise Tea.

I never said you begged. This post is basically "I'm sad that I'm alone" and in my experience when someone says that they really mean "I want someone to keep me company".

Comparing loving and losing to never having loved is rather pointless. There's no way to know which is worse, and indeed one may be worse for one person and the other worse for another.

What's that old saying? "You don't know what you're missing." Well I do, and it sucks. You say it'll get better if given time, but you can't know that. Just like I can't know if you'll ever find someone.

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29 Jun 2011, 1:47 pm

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It's obvious what's it all about and "begging someone to save me" is not one of them , wise Tea.

I never said you begged. This post is basically "I'm sad that I'm alone" and in my experience when someone says that they really mean "I want someone to keep me company".

I'd give you 0/10 on the post comprehension. Is that really what you understood from that enormous post? horrible.

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Comparing loving and losing to never having loved is rather pointless. There's no way to know which is worse, and indeed one may be worse for one person and the other worse for another.

Why is it pointless? Is it even a taboo to say that state x can be harder than state y? Not everything in life is that extremely subjective , I gave concrete examples why it would much more likely harder, what arguments are you giving to support your claim? Besides, I am just talking about myself.

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What's that old saying? "You don't know what you're missing." Well I do, and it sucks. You say it'll get better if given time, but you can't know that. Just like I can't know if you'll ever find someone.

If you know what I am missing then why you are even arguing about my comparison?

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29 Jun 2011, 1:50 pm

I don't think I'm the one misunderstanding here, but if I am I apologize.

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29 Jun 2011, 2:08 pm

You ARE the completely misunderstanding one (and judgmental), since you are projecting the "goal of this thread" in your liking. You are making it sound as if I am making a call of desperation in my post "booh, I am alone, booh I want a savior girl to save me from my solitude".

In other term you are saying: Boo is desperate and wants a gf just to save him from his state of solitude.

But It's literally all in your head.

And the post obviously doesn't imply any of that.

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29 Jun 2011, 2:25 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

but the former type would feel emptiness ,lacking...for a lifetime.

We should not find the point of it because all beautiful, excellent things are vague.(applies to all of us)

Maybe you should just try to feel it.

If it is that simple, then you would not even post it online, would you?(applies to another'you')

It should be complex....It is the concept, but not any concrete things.

But if in practial, it can be....

Dialectics again.

We can know, understand and feel, but not say it out. When we say it out, we spoiled it at the same time.

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29 Jun 2011, 2:29 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

You ARE the completely misunderstanding one (and judgmental), since you are projecting the "goal of this thread" in your liking. You are projecting a call of desperation in my post "booh, I am alone, booh I want a savior girl to save me from my solitude".

In other term you are saying: Boo is desperate and wants a gf just to save him from his state of solitude.

But It's literally all in your head.

And the post obviously doesn't imply any of that.

I'm not being judgmental, but I may be a bit biased.

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29 Jun 2011, 4:11 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I'm not being judgmental, but I may be a bit biased.

A biased judgement, it was.

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