Live in or live out?

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I cuddle a blanket and stuff cat every night to get to sleep. So I’d prefer ever night but I’ll never be able to live with a woman as she’ll eventually consider me w mooch for being poor.

Sleep overs would be in the beginning years of relationships no?

Couples are allowed to make their own rules about how their relationship works. If a couple wants to continue sleepovers indefinitely, and it works for them, why not?

Costs of keeping two living spaces, problems with being married when everything is joined etc. th cost of travel between living spaces. Plus most women want to live with their bf. I want to live with my gf if I had one. No woman’s going to want to do sleep overs where I live. And any woman who would date me if one existed probably also lives with family , so if we ever want to be intimate we’d have to live together alone eventually.

Fair enough. You have a lot of obstacles. It's a lot simpler for me, I set myself up so I can do what I want (e.g. I live where rent is cheap so I can afford to live alone; travel to my partner's house could be just down the road, or just next door! if we wanted, and if not, it's still within budget to travel a few hundred kms to town).

Update from my other post in here which was years ago I
I've been living with my current girlfriend for over 5 & a half years now. I think what helps is that we're both committed to trying to make the relationship work. There's going to be disagreements & times when you upset each other, it's unavoidable. What's important is that you try to work together to deal with & address things or don't worry about em & move on to other relationship stuff instead of continuing to let those things fester. It also helps that me & Cass are both kind of needy & clingy within a realtionship & we tend to like spending time together. We're both on the spectrum so that probably helps things too.

once lived in a two bedroom two bath apartment. through the front door and to the right was a dining area, to the left was the door to the master bed and bath. straight ahead was a decent sized kitchen separated from the living room on the left by an island, and just past that was a junction to the second bedroom on the left, a laundry closet in the middle, and a bath on the right. would probably prefer to live in a layout like that with a partner, or apart, so each have their own private space to retreat to when alone time is needed.

too, if living together, would feel it necessary to keep a schedule of times to be out of the place so she had it to herself. have lived with roommates, and sometimes you can’t recharge as an introvert unless the place is yours for a known amount of time.

I would like to have my own place but it's cheaper for me to share rent so live in I guess.

That sounds excellent! I would love to have my own space like that!

When I was a lad my greatest ambition was to have a television in my room so I could watch it in my own space. More recently I lived by myself so I put the TVs in the living room because when you live by yourself you have exactly the same amount of privacy in the living as you do in the bedroom.

Now that I live with my girlfriend it might be a good idea to have some TVs in a smaller room rather than the living room. Now that I live with someone else it almost feels like being back home (other people in the house? Scary haha).

The trouble is, if I even go into another room for more than a few minutes girlfriend says she misses me. While I'd like to repurpose the spare bedroom into a no girlfriends allowed TV room I think she'd prefer to keep to a shared living space.

I guess it's not so bad. I have 3 TVs in the living room so we're still able to watch seperate shows if we want. If we ever move out of our apartment and into a house I might need a second living room (or possibly a drawing room).

The only thing I can say is that if you move in together, you better know beforehand that that's what you truly want. Living seperated and living together are like two seperate worlds. You'll eventually see someone's true colors when you live together for awhile. I just speak from my own experience