Can you handle a single life?

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keira
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06 Jul 2011, 2:33 pm

I've been single for nearly two years and I can say that I'm handling it quite well. Mostly because I don't feel like I have a choice. I have my down moments and I want a partner but I don't feel like I desperately need one. So I'd rather be single than in an unhappy relationship. I could not be with someone just for the sake of having a partner.

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06 Jul 2011, 2:39 pm

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06 Jul 2011, 2:49 pm

Yes I can but I'll probably not be very happy being single for the rest of my life because then this means that I will have to go to restaurants, parties and vacations completely alone. And the fact that I can't drive a car does not help my case either. Many people often think that I am a masochist or something because I always fall in love with women that I can never have.

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06 Jul 2011, 2:49 pm

I've been single for nearly 3 years.

Although I do experience loneliness, I would never go back to having the sort of mental instability that comes with most partners. There are too many mind games and stresses in the average relationship.

I value my mental stability above all. It might be boring, but it keeps me alive.

So any potential partner would have to be of calm disposition, rational, and understand the need for personal space. And be a fan of zombie films.

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06 Jul 2011, 3:41 pm

Well, look at me, I am still alive....

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06 Jul 2011, 3:42 pm

I've never lived with a partner and last sought country matters * a decade ago. :wink:

* see urban dictionary

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06 Jul 2011, 4:17 pm

MXH wrote:

And by that i mean completely single. Celibate, you can have friends, just no partners. Can you live like that?

Single, yes. Celibate HELL NO!

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06 Jul 2011, 7:40 pm

Do I have a choice in the matter? It seems like that outcome has been decided for me against my will already...

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06 Jul 2011, 7:51 pm

I have been both single and partnered. Both have their positives and their negatives. I am currently involved with another aspie, and I agree that relationships can bring instability and issues, that is for sure, but also positives of sharing meals, cooking together, sharing words, and all sorts of other kinds of sharing. I can live with either, to be honest. I seek stability in my life, and have yet to attain that in a relationship.

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06 Jul 2011, 8:32 pm

Of course, a life of solitude is all I know.

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06 Jul 2011, 10:25 pm

I think for me it's more about whether I can handle a partner or not. Because all signs so far point to no.

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06 Jul 2011, 10:58 pm

I've been single for the last 24+ years. I think I can handle it. At this point I think I've gotten so used to it that I would have a hard time not being single. Too much of a break in my entrenched routines.

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07 Jul 2011, 12:50 am

I'm 32 and have never been in any kind of relationship. I honestly don't see that changing as I'd have to question the sanity of a woman who'd want to date me

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07 Jul 2011, 4:13 am

I've actually never felt like I *needed* a boyfriend. I seem to have ended up with one, but he is often antisocial to the point where if I was the sort of person who needed to be in a relationship, I probably wouldn't be happy in a relationship with him.

If it ended and I was alone forever I can't imagine minding too much once I'd got over the break up, as long as I could continue to have the friends I've made and the social support that they provide.

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