MollyTroubletail wrote:
Okay, call me a male troll if you want, and don't believe me if you want, it's your brain and you can decide whatever malarky you like best and it's not my job to correct you. I, for example, have already decided that you are actually a pair of antique spectacles.
If your AS doesn't allow you to wear any makeup, wash brush or style your hair, brush your teeth, wear a bra, wear any shoes except sneakers, and you have to wear loose cotton hoodies and baggy old jeans only, then yeah: you are gonna have a problem getting dates because, I'm sorry to say so, but you would look kinda on the shabby/sloppy side. I've been that ugly girl too, so I speak from experience. Grunge is unfortunately out of style now, and it only used to work for teenagers anyway.
Anyway, my point was that the majority of men are led to choose women mostly because of their libido. That's what makes it so easy for women to get dates, if they know how to look and act "sexy". Sex sells to the vast majority of men. If you want to get offended by that or argue about it, go right ahead. Getting offended and disagreeing is your right. But that's how it works, like it or not, and it's not going to change either.
if you use sex to sell yourself, the majority of the time you will get sex in return and nothing more. which is no use at to women who want a quality relationship.good for you if you want to sell yourself as a sex object by using your body and various seduction techniques. but it sure as heck isn't the same thing as actual dating.
if you are seeking casual sex, it sounds like you have the techniques down pat. personally, i don't think that intentionally giving a man a boner in ten minutes is the best technique for finding a high quality life partner.
you slightly missed the point that i was making. i was saying that... just like aspie MEN have difficulty in certain areas when it comes to attracting mates, so do aspie WOMEN. perhaps it is easy for you, personally, to be some kind of sex goddess that has men falling at her feet, but other aspie women may not have the ability to remake themselves into such a creature because of legitimate sensory issues, social misunderstandings, and motor control problems.
it's not a matter of being slobby or grungy... it's a matter of having deficits that are large enough that it becomes impossible to simply slap on some paint and some fashion and be a knockout.
it is every bit as hard for aspie women as aspie men, just perhaps in different ways. maybe you are an exception, but there are aspie male exceptions too - those who are accomplished in the dating game. frankly such exceptions don't magically make it easier for the rest of us.
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