How can you say, "I love you!" too early?

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Well, you kinda open your mouth, and then you say "I love you." Usually done so when the other person is in the vicinity.

Oh, wait, that's not what the thread's about.

I agree with Chronos. I think it's a kind of commitment thing. Saying "I love you" is a strong commitment to a relationship. People may choke on that kind of commitment. The problem, too, is that the words almost need to be reciprocated. If someone tells you, you need to say it as well.

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I feel like love is when their is a known stability emotionally in the relationship and no feeling of one sided love. but girls are crazy and pull one over on you break your heart and never talk to you again.

I don't get it, either. But then I've never been one to drag out the whole getting-to-know-you process via months of weekly one or two hour dates. My first "date" with my current bf was a week long.

I think lots of people say it too soon. I think their is being in Lust, being in deep like and being in Love.

The man i am seeing. I really like him. I like him more then i should and i am also deeply in lust with him. I don't "Love" him yet. I could see that eventuality in the future.

We both say to each other "I love you doing xyz." ect.

When I fall in love with him, I will sit him down and have a frank discussion about it.

haha you should watch peep show! jeremy says "oh i say i love you on the first date just to get things off to a good start" haahhahaha..... you have to watch that show.

Instead of blurting out 'I love you' and hoping for the best you can say it a more subtle and less committed way.

You can wait until you are both laughing at something and say "you know I could really fall in love you sometimes" or wait until she does something you like and then say "if you keep doing that I'm going to fall in love with you".

Say it somewhere private and relaxed when it is just the two of you, after you have kissed for example, it wouldn't go down well in the middle of the office or if the thing you like is her going dutch at a restaurant.

It introduces the idea of love but doesn't actually say it so she has the option of making a joke and backing off or encouraging you.

If she encourages you wait until you have seen her a couple of more times or give it a few days/weeks depending on how fast you think the relationship is moving and say " I'm definitely going to fall in love with you" and see how she reacts again.

Again if she encourages you, you can wait a little bit and say "I think I'm falling in love you" if you still aren't sure she feels the same way, that means she has had 3 opportunities to discourage or encourage you.

If she breaks physical contact with you straight after you say it or if she suddenly starts to make excuse for why she can't see you as much that is a bad sign, she might not feel the same way about you or think the relationship is moving too quickly.

If she moves closer to you or you kisses you after you say it or if she says something like 'hurry up, I won't wait forever' that is a good sign that she feels the same way about you.



Alternatively you could get advice from an NT, I'm generally pretty bad myself at reading people!