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29 Jul 2011, 12:37 pm

blondieamc wrote:
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What do you consider the worse experience

After some people may rant about constant rejection and some of the experience being harsh, as I have been there, in the end, I think that the other problems within relationships such as infidelity, abruptly calling for an end, and the usual fights, all of these seem worse. Frankly I don't think I could handle any of them, so maybe I'm not missing that much :P

So, being alone may not be that bad after all, compared to other issues. I know this looks a bit pessimistic but if I had to choose, I think I rather play safe, not that I can actually choose.


Not to mention being single has its freedom. After my last relationship, I came to appreciate being single partly for this reason.



Why is that?


To put it bluntly, I like having my own space and keeping people at a non-intrusive distance. Being in a relationship puts way too much stress on fulfilling obligations.


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29 Jul 2011, 12:40 pm

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Cheating could be the worst, depending on circumstances. As it is a betrayal of trust, which could lead to trust issues in future relationships.

Being dumped happens to everyone. It all depends on the intensity of the relationship, how much love you felt, how much you depended on them. So, it might be a minor upset, or a horrendous hearbreak. If your husband of 40 years dumps you, then it would almost certainly have more effect than a 1 month boyfriend cheating on you.


Being rejected - Life goes on.




being cheated on is whatever, i'd never look at a girl that cheated on me again, she'd be dead to me from the moment i found out. No it's not great but at least you know that the person that cheated isn't the one and that in itself is worth finding out, i'd rather the truth.

Being dumped is something i've not experienced.

Being rejected is the one that will always bother me. I find a girl i like roughly once every five years. I could sit and name every single one of them. Rejection to me is first ages getting to know them, ages liking them and not daring to say and then years of being alone after the rejection, trying to recover. Rejection steals entire periods of my life and makes it far less likely that i'll try again. As it is I don't even want to be interested in anyone ever again.

Out of the few i've liked only 1 liked me back and the other decided she was in love with me years after she rejected me, by then i'd got over it and i felt nothing for her.



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29 Jul 2011, 3:15 pm

From the choices you listed, I'd think getting cheated on would be the worst experience since it brings the most hurt. You'd be with someone and may have time to actually get attached to them; then develop feelings and trust and then they can betray you with an act like that. At least with rejection you won't have to go through the pain of being in a lousy relationship. You're forbidden before it could happen.


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29 Jul 2011, 3:44 pm

I have never been dumped and am not aware of ever having been cheated on. I was rejected once, and that wasn't so bad. I guess being dumped would theoretically be worse than being cheated on, but it would depend upon the circumstances.


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29 Jul 2011, 3:55 pm

Cheating, although, the other two can also hurt bad, but being cheated on ... to me is like saying "I don't trust you to understand why I am cheating on you, so you are better off in the dark". While the other two are like being straight forward with their intentions and you can move on.



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30 Jul 2011, 12:48 am

The only people who can accurately judge are people who have had all 3 happen to them.



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30 Jul 2011, 1:48 am

Being dumped by someone that you took back after they cheated on you is pretty bad. Though I suppose I deserved it for being stupid enough to do such a thing.



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30 Jul 2011, 9:05 am

I have never being rejected, cheated on or dumped. I've being married for 16 years to my first and only boyfriend and I think I can say we are happy. Love should not always be hard. I think it is a matter of choosing right. I dated some guys, but chose my husbsnd because I knew he was the right one. He was not the cutest or richest, but I knew he was the right for me. It seems I was right.



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30 Jul 2011, 12:01 pm

I can only speak for myself but to me rejection hurts the most because rejection is all know. I've never experienced dumping or cheating because I never got to this stage in a relationship to begin with. So I don't know what its like.

For me rejection is like killing a plant before a tree can grow out of it and yes it is a painful experience.