Lyriel wrote:
Aspiestar924 wrote:
Lyriel wrote:
I would highly recommend reading up about polyamory and open relationships before taking the first step. Such relationships are not for everyone, and you don't want to jump into it blindly without knowing what you want and if this is right for you.
If you still feel that such a relationship is right for you after doing your homework, only then should you take the next step.
Sorry for not communicating the circumstances here, I've already read quite a bit on this topic years before I met him. However it's something I would see if it worked out. One of the other guys I love dislikes polyamory so I might have chose some people and monogamy or polyamory over others in life if I do live out open relationships.
Well, if you're willing to explore that path, I would say the next step is letting your interest know that you are interested (I wouldn't use the L-word just yet, but do let him know that you care for him), and getting to know him, his wife, and other partners involved. You not only want to know if you are compatible, but you also want to get to know the dynamics of the relationship. The cornerstones of polyamorous relationships are openness and honesty, so you must approach this with the same.
Now, as for actually approaching your interest... well, I'm an Aspie too, of course, and a very non-assertive one, so this is where I struggle. I understand your concerns about asking for contact information at work, but I don't see it being an issue - lots of people make friends at work, after all. If you're not comfortable with that, have you tried looking him up on Facebook?
-Lol the day I found out about his open marriage, he was pondering with the idea of facebook, but still isn't too sure yet lol. For me, email and/or phone number would be better.
-With regard to business, I should indicate he's a superior in the work hierachy, so that's part of the problem cause I fear reprimands, but I notice he did have a short term thing with a girl lower than him recently, idk what to make of that.
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30 Jul 2011, 7:25 pm
