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03 Aug 2011, 8:56 pm

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But some women are deep silver diggers...and some women like other types of jewels.


Some are, but they are generally had by men who are "trophy collectors", in other words, men who just want "good looking" women. I think most of the men on here really do want a woman who will actually love them.



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03 Aug 2011, 9:10 pm

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This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is " HOT women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


In my case I am not even considering "hot" women since I assume it will be "no". I am looking at ALL women and still have very hard time getting a gf.

are you really looking at ALL women? because i remember in another thread you said you only wanted women of a certain skin tone, andyou would not consider a girl of a different skin tone even if she was interested in you. it seems like you ave already provided a good example of what OSB was saying.


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03 Aug 2011, 9:19 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
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Grisha wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is " HOT women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


In my case I am not even considering "hot" women since I assume it will be "no". I am looking at ALL women and still have very hard time getting a gf.

are you really looking at ALL women? because i remember in another thread you said you only wanted women of a certain skin tone, andyou would not consider a girl of a different skin tone even if she was interested in you. it seems like you ave already provided a good example of what OSB was saying.


It is true I won't date anyone non-white. But at the same time I DO date overweight women: the respective weights of the long-term women I had were 220 lbl, 270 lbl and 300 lbl.

Now, dating or not dating women of another race woundn't have made any difference. I mean it takes me a year to find a girl. Now, lets say 75% of women are white. In this case being open to non-whites would have reduced a year to 9 months. But 9 months is still way too long.



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03 Aug 2011, 9:23 pm

Roman wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
Grisha wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is " HOT women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


In my case I am not even considering "hot" women since I assume it will be "no". I am looking at ALL women and still have very hard time getting a gf.

are you really looking at ALL women? because i remember in another thread you said you only wanted women of a certain skin tone, andyou would not consider a girl of a different skin tone even if she was interested in you. it seems like you ave already provided a good example of what OSB was saying.


It is true I won't date anyone non-white. But at the same time I DO date overweight women: the respective weights of the long-term women I had were 220 lbl, 270 lbl and 300 lbl.

Now, dating or not dating women of another race woundn't have made any difference. I mean it takes me a year to find a girl. Now, lets say 75% of women are white. In this case being open to non-whites would have reduced a year to 9 months. But 9 months is still way too long.

except that the statistics don't work like that in real life, especially since you are living in a primarily non-white nation.


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03 Aug 2011, 9:29 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
Grisha wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is " HOT women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


In my case I am not even considering "hot" women since I assume it will be "no". I am looking at ALL women and still have very hard time getting a gf.

are you really looking at ALL women? because i remember in another thread you said you only wanted women of a certain skin tone, andyou would not consider a girl of a different skin tone even if she was interested in you. it seems like you ave already provided a good example of what OSB was saying.


It is true I won't date anyone non-white. But at the same time I DO date overweight women: the respective weights of the long-term women I had were 220 lbl, 270 lbl and 300 lbl.

Now, dating or not dating women of another race woundn't have made any difference. I mean it takes me a year to find a girl. Now, lets say 75% of women are white. In this case being open to non-whites would have reduced a year to 9 months. But 9 months is still way too long.

except that the statistics don't work like that in real life, especially since you are living in a primarily non-white nation.

though technically, indian people could be considered caucasian.


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03 Aug 2011, 9:30 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
Grisha wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is " HOT women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


In my case I am not even considering "hot" women since I assume it will be "no". I am looking at ALL women and still have very hard time getting a gf.

are you really looking at ALL women? because i remember in another thread you said you only wanted women of a certain skin tone, andyou would not consider a girl of a different skin tone even if she was interested in you. it seems like you ave already provided a good example of what OSB was saying.


It is true I won't date anyone non-white. But at the same time I DO date overweight women: the respective weights of the long-term women I had were 220 lbl, 270 lbl and 300 lbl.

Now, dating or not dating women of another race woundn't have made any difference. I mean it takes me a year to find a girl. Now, lets say 75% of women are white. In this case being open to non-whites would have reduced a year to 9 months. But 9 months is still way too long.

except that the statistics don't work like that in real life, especially since you are living in a primarily non-white nation.


I am only in India for job; otherwise I live in USA and I am not Indian. I am originally from Russia.

I am not trying to date in India for the exact reason you just stated. When I was complaining about difficulty finding dates I was referring to the time when I was in USA. Thats why I said 75% are white.



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03 Aug 2011, 9:31 pm

Roman wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
Grisha wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is " HOT women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


In my case I am not even considering "hot" women since I assume it will be "no". I am looking at ALL women and still have very hard time getting a gf.

are you really looking at ALL women? because i remember in another thread you said you only wanted women of a certain skin tone, andyou would not consider a girl of a different skin tone even if she was interested in you. it seems like you ave already provided a good example of what OSB was saying.


It is true I won't date anyone non-white. But at the same time I DO date overweight women: the respective weights of the long-term women I had were 220 lbl, 270 lbl and 300 lbl.

Now, dating or not dating women of another race woundn't have made any difference. I mean it takes me a year to find a girl. Now, lets say 75% of women are white. In this case being open to non-whites would have reduced a year to 9 months. But 9 months is still way too long.

except that the statistics don't work like that in real life, especially since you are living in a primarily non-white nation.


I am only in India for job; otherwise I live in USA and I am not Indian. I am originally from Russia.

I am not trying to date in India for the exact reason you just stated. When I was complaining about difficulty finding dates I was referring to the time when I was in USA. Thats why I said 75% are white.

that's exactly the point - you are not willing to date ALL women, contrary to your statement. you can make your own choices, but you are still being selective.


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03 Aug 2011, 9:34 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Roman wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
Grisha wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is " HOT women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


In my case I am not even considering "hot" women since I assume it will be "no". I am looking at ALL women and still have very hard time getting a gf.

are you really looking at ALL women? because i remember in another thread you said you only wanted women of a certain skin tone, andyou would not consider a girl of a different skin tone even if she was interested in you. it seems like you ave already provided a good example of what OSB was saying.


It is true I won't date anyone non-white. But at the same time I DO date overweight women: the respective weights of the long-term women I had were 220 lbl, 270 lbl and 300 lbl.

Now, dating or not dating women of another race woundn't have made any difference. I mean it takes me a year to find a girl. Now, lets say 75% of women are white. In this case being open to non-whites would have reduced a year to 9 months. But 9 months is still way too long.

except that the statistics don't work like that in real life, especially since you are living in a primarily non-white nation.


I am only in India for job; otherwise I live in USA and I am not Indian. I am originally from Russia.

I am not trying to date in India for the exact reason you just stated. When I was complaining about difficulty finding dates I was referring to the time when I was in USA. Thats why I said 75% are white.

that's exactly the point - you are not willing to date ALL women, contrary to your statement. you can make your own choices, but you are still being selective.


The guys who only want to date HOT women are open to 10% of women. On the other hand, back in USA, I was open to 75% of women. Being open to 10% explains why it takes them so long to get a date. Being open to 75% does not explain it at all. It is simple math.



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03 Aug 2011, 9:34 pm

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I wanted to post an article about a doco I saw last night. This guy was born with a physical disibility, and he has a lovely GF who loves him for who he is. No he's not "rich" either.

It just goes to show how important attitude is when finding a girlfriend as well as personality, as opposed to "looks and money".

I recon it's really great that this guy has found happiness, and I think some of the guys here ought to look at themselves before calling all women shallow and gold digging.

http://www.pontefractandcastlefordexpre ... _1_2785999

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This is a WAG on my part, but I suspect that she knows that the chances of some other blonde cutie "stealing" her boyfriend are very small.



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04 Aug 2011, 12:46 am

Grisha wrote:
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This was directed at men in here who are all "women only want HOT men" "women only want RICH men".


While I certainly appreciate the sentiment, when certain men say those things what they really mean is "women don't want me" - the "hot/rich" thing is just a cover, they don't actually believe it themselves in most cases...


You're probably right. They try and make stupid excuses for them not being appealing, when the real reason is likely an attitude problem.

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I'd ask them what t was and they just say they did not know. Just a feeling they had.


You should have asked them if it is "just a feeling" why not TEST their "feelings" by giving you a chance. Why are they so sure that their feelings are correct that they wouldn't even test them?


You can't exactly talk if you won't date certain women, like you said in this thread.



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04 Aug 2011, 12:49 am

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Now some women judge by attitude. But they are not mind readers, they can't just KNOW the attitude. So they judge the attitude based on things such as facial expression or some other details.


Attitude (in the case of some of the men here (I won't name names)) is expressed by vibes, not facial expressions. The only way of giving off the right one is changing your outlook.

Also on a side note: If you choose to live in a non white nation, why are you complaining about lack of white women who want you? You chose not to live around them.



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04 Aug 2011, 1:17 am

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Attitude (in the case of some of the men here (I won't name names)) is expressed by vibes, not facial expressions. The only way of giving off the right one is changing your outlook.


Facial expression is just one example. Other examples might be something along the lines of how you phrase things and stuff. But they are still something that can be misjudged. In my case, for example, I don't know how to do a small talk. This is not an attitude it is a simple inability: I might want to do it but don't know how. Yet women feel it is an attitude.

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Also on a side note: If you choose to live in a non white nation, why are you complaining about lack of white women who want you? You chose not to live around them.


You have to keep track of dates. I started living in non-white nation STARTING FROM 2009. My complains refer to my bad experience BEFORE 2009,when I was living in USA.



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You have to keep track of dates. I started living in non-white nation STARTING FROM 2009. My complains refer to my bad experience BEFORE 2009,when I was living in USA.


Ok.



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04 Aug 2011, 4:20 am

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Yes, but Asperger doesn't affect looks. It affects PERCEIVED attitude. So even if a girl judges by attitude she might still avoid aspies becasue she might decide an aspie has bad attitude when they don't.


Yes, its perceived attitude. Many of the women i would try and have a relationship with would friend zone me. Later i would ask them why they did not want to get closer. They said its just "something about you". I'd ask them what t was and they just say they did not know. Just a feeling they had. So I had no idea what I was doing wrong or how to fix it. At the time I did not know about my AS. Even know that I know I have AS, I still give of this vibe. No matter how much I work on myself it comes out. I can't fix it if I don't know how or what I am doing to give people that feeling about me.


Forurtenlety, I have meet someone nice and I am really happy with Her. She has AS, too. We understand each other and can relate to each other. We know we won't play games with each other.

Everything in your post applies to me in both parts. However the only time an NT girl was interested in me was when I actually had a very negative attitude & I found my current(also my 2nd & hopefully last girl because I really like her, I'm really falling for her hard & I think this really could work & she has AS as well BTW) when I made a post here that I think seemed very desperate & kinda had a negative vibe so I don't think appearing to have a negative attitude limits Aspie guys because my experience contradicts that. Maybe that's the problem with some of us Aspies; we listen to the mainstream typical advice that usually works for most when the opposite may work better for us sense we are very different than the norm.


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04 Aug 2011, 5:13 am

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.... when I made a post here that I think seemed very desperate & kinda had a negative vibe ....


Can you post a link to that post?



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.... when I made a post here that I think seemed very desperate & kinda had a negative vibe ....


Can you post a link to that post?

I'm a little embarrassed bu here's link http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt167028.html


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