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What are you?
female that pursues 20%  20%  [ 10 ]
female that doesn't pursue 30%  30%  [ 15 ]
male that pursues 16%  16%  [ 8 ]
male that doesn't pursue 34%  34%  [ 17 ]
Total votes : 50

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24 Aug 2011, 8:36 pm

I pursue but usually only because I'm really attracted to the person and can't seem to help myself. Seriously, I've openly flirted with people who were with their significant other without consciously intending to do it. Very embarrassing.

I don't think I've ever been pursued but that could just be because I have no idea what the other person is on about. A guy once told me that after a year of trying he finally gave up on a girl he really liked and was moving on. Turns out I was the girl he was moving on from. I had absolutely no idea. It's a shame, he was really cute.



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24 Aug 2011, 8:43 pm

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I pursue but usually only because I'm really attracted to the person and can't seem to help myself. Seriously, I've openly flirted with people who were with their significant other without consciously intending to do it. Very embarrassing.


8O Can't help it? I've been known to flirt, but I can definitely control it. I'm kind of backwards with it, though. I flirt with people I'm not interested in. :lol:

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I don't think I've ever been pursued but that could just be because I have no idea what the other person is on about. A guy once told me that after a year of trying he finally gave up on a girl he really liked and was moving on. Turns out I was the girl he was moving on from. I had absolutely no idea. It's a shame, he was really cute.


Oh, I've been there. I still have a lot of trouble reading the signs.


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24 Aug 2011, 8:44 pm

What counts as pursue? I have approached women, but I don't bother after they're rejected me once.



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24 Aug 2011, 8:45 pm

Don't pursue. Did a few times, ended in disaster. :lol: Never again, scared me straight.


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24 Aug 2011, 8:47 pm

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What counts as pursue? I have approached women, but I don't bother after they're rejected me once.


I'd consider that pursuing. I certainly don't continue to go after someone once they've told me they aren't interested.


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24 Aug 2011, 8:50 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
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What counts as pursue? I have approached women, but I don't bother after they're rejected me once.


I'd consider that pursuing. I certainly don't continue to go after someone once they've told me they aren't interested.


That's what I'm asking. Is it pursuing if you just asked once?



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24 Aug 2011, 8:54 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I flirt with people I'm not interested in. :lol:



That's just not right!! :lmao: :P



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24 Aug 2011, 8:55 pm

SadAspy wrote:
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What counts as pursue? I have approached women, but I don't bother after they're rejected me once.


I'd consider that pursuing. I certainly don't continue to go after someone once they've told me they aren't interested.


That's what I'm asking. Is it pursuing if you just asked once?


:shrug: Use your judgement.


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24 Aug 2011, 8:57 pm

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TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I flirt with people I'm not interested in. :lol:



That's just not right!! :lmao: :P


I know, I know... lol I just see flirting as something silly to do. If I'm actually interested in someone, I'm very serious about it.


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24 Aug 2011, 9:05 pm

I stopped pursuing a year or two ago. Maybe the hormones are just taking a well needed break after over 30 years. Or maybe it's because there just isn't anyone appropriate at the moment. Anyway, it feels a whole lot better to not be concerned with women for a while.


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24 Aug 2011, 9:23 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AsteroidNap wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I flirt with people I'm not interested in. :lol:



That's just not right!! :lmao: :P


I know, I know... lol I just see flirting as something silly to do. If I'm actually interested in someone, I'm very serious about it.


Sorry, I had to come back to this because I realized in my haste what I said may confuse some.

I flirt only with people I'm reasonably certain won't take it as anything other than what it's meant to be... funny. So nobody go thinking I want you just because I haven't flirted with you. :P


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24 Aug 2011, 9:26 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AsteroidNap wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I flirt with people I'm not interested in. :lol:



That's just not right!! :lmao: :P


I know, I know... lol I just see flirting as something silly to do. If I'm actually interested in someone, I'm very serious about it.


Sorry, I had to come back to this because I realized in my haste what I said may confuse some.

I flirt only with people I'm reasonably certain won't take it as anything other than what it's meant to be... funny. So nobody go thinking I want you just because I haven't flirted with you. :P


So wait, are you flirting with me now?



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24 Aug 2011, 9:29 pm

:lol: No.


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24 Aug 2011, 9:30 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
What counts as pursue? I have approached women, but I don't bother after they're rejected me once.


I'd consider that pursuing. I certainly don't continue to go after someone once they've told me they aren't interested.


That's what I'm asking. Is it pursuing if you just asked once?


:shrug: Use your judgement.


See, I try to be polite and not misogynistic and this is the treatment I get.



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24 Aug 2011, 9:34 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Grisha wrote:
How about: Male that pursues if given a reasonably unambiguous "green light"?


That would fall under "male that pursues". :)


no i dissagree 100%, it would fall under male that doesn't pursue. i take pursue to mean "try and win over", if she gives you an unambiguous green light there is no winning over needed.

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Oh, I've been there. I still have a lot of trouble reading the signs.

haha, my wife gets jealous and then has to explain later she was upset because somebody was flirting with me. i'm like, who was? and she describes them, and i'm like "i have no recollection of that person"


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24 Aug 2011, 9:43 pm

SadAspy wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
:shrug: Use your judgement.


See, I try to be polite and not misogynistic and this is the treatment I get.


:?:

Do you think I was being rude or condescending?


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