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09 Sep 2011, 1:02 am

Dont worry Toad, the beautiful, kind, smart Frogess of your dreams will find you one day.


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09 Sep 2011, 1:08 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:
It actually stems from a dispute i've had with a part of Christian dogma. Specifically, the part that God loves and cares for everyone. I still believe that God is the creator of all things (regardless of how metaphorical the biblical creation account is), and believe in Jesus as the sole source of salvation (even though I believe He saves all, regardless of who they are). The problem I have though, stems from some logic here:

Given: I am a defective person, sub-human, unable to properly form relationships with others and an incomplete person.

That means that either God is capable of making mistakes, which He isn't. Which means the only other logical conclusion is that there are people such as me that He truly does not care about. I'm just a loose end, a half-person that He has no plan for. If He did, then my prayers for becoming someone truly worthwhile as a person in my own right would be answered.

Hence, I have a desire to become one in spirit with someone else, preferably one that is similarly sh** out of luck. Then maybe I have a shot at being someone worthwhile.


They say midgets are God's little punchlines.



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09 Sep 2011, 2:38 pm

I'm not sure if I believe in the idea of a soul-mate but I am certain I've found mine if soul-mates do exist. The way we got together, way we get along so well & are so compatible for each other; makes me think it was more than a coincidence


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09 Sep 2011, 2:48 pm

nick007 wrote:
I'm not sure if I believe in the idea of a soul-mate but I am certain I've found mine if soul-mates do exist. The way we got together, way we get along so well & are so compatible for each other; makes me think it was more than a coincidence

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09 Sep 2011, 3:43 pm

zen_mistress wrote:
Dont worry Toad, the beautiful, kind, smart Frogess of your dreams will find you one day.


I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not...

Look, I know i'm exactly the type that women don't want. Generally they want guys that were created with a complete soul, not some screwup like me. I don't know what's worse: the fact that women don't want me or the fact that I don't deserve a relationship...



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09 Sep 2011, 3:56 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
zen_mistress wrote:
Dont worry Toad, the beautiful, kind, smart Frogess of your dreams will find you one day.


I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not...

Look, I know i'm exactly the type that women don't want. Generally they want guys that were created with a complete soul, not some screwup like me. I don't know what's worse: the fact that women don't want me or the fact that I don't deserve a relationship...


I would encourage you not to think in these generalized ways. The women you've met so far may not want you, but you cannot make that assumption about all women. And because of your AS, there may have been women interested, but you failed to notice the signals. So work on enhancing your best qualities, work on noticing these signals, and work the numbers game. After all, it is a numbers game. You just need to meet MORE women...yeah, that means more rejection too, but that is the only way forward if you want a relationship. You can focus your search by engaging women at events where you might have similar interests (comic conventions, dog shows, volunteer work, etc).

Unless one resigns themselves to a life of solitude. That is a perfectly acceptable choice as well. Both men and women make this choice all the time.



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09 Sep 2011, 5:21 pm

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To call someone a "Soulmate" is to believe that in all of the population on Earth, there is only one person that could possibly fulfill all of your material and spiritual desires, and that everyone else is just a poseur.

Thus, if the world population is 6.8 x 10^ (6,800,000,000) people, and half of those are of the appropriate gender, then you have only a 1 out of 3,399,999,999 chance of ever finding that person - that is, 0.000,000,007,5 percent chance (7.5 nano-percent) of ever meeting your "Soulmate".

Better to just settle for someone who is willing and able to form a relationship out of tolerance, respect, trust, and sexual compatibility than to spend the rest of your life asking 34 thousand-million people "Are you the one?"


This ^ soooooo much of this!