Going places alone.

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I can't travel abroad without my parents because I can't drive. My mobility is pretty limited.

I once almost vomited while driving and almost got killed. My biggest fear is having to vomit and losing control of the car while being behind the wheel.

I used to ask people to go places with me because I was too afraid to go alone. Then I kept getting turned down and started going places by myself. Now I go almost everyplace alone. It's nice.

I only go to smaller, hip venues these days - so it's a lot like being in a bar.

I'm WAY too cool for stadium/arena acts anyway...

I should also mention that the iPad is a huge help, I'll probably be posting on WP the whole time...

Pictures!

Really? I looove going to concerts alone. Been to a few, best ones I have been to. The first 5 mins might be odd, and then its fine.
And no matter how many people I go to a concert with, I somehow always end up alone /lost.
And movies alone also rock, and eating alone, exploring, shopping... But I tend to be an antisocial weirdo.



No. Ipad + concert will probably end disastrously. I see images of flying whiskeys and stuff.

Grisha, I think it's great that you're gaining this comfort!

I go everywhere alone, it's my default setting. It doesn't occur to me to go with people (and some of the time I have my children with me so that's "people" right there).

I take myself to the movies, I take myself out on dates at restaurants (you get amazing service if you sit at the bar and order food there), I eat lunch out alone at least once a week at the pub across from where I work. I never get bored.

I'm not much for concerts (too many people and too loud, often) but if someone I really wanted to see were playing, I'd go.

I find it hard to look into things like vacation packages because most of those have been planned out for 2.

Yes of course.

Also, iPad should be fine - I've already taken it to two concerts with WPs awesome Esther (where has she been, anyway?) and I found a safe spot both times - it's not like I'm going to a punk show (which would be fun, just not with an iPad)...

Vacation packages usually aren't very interesting anyway. I usually travel alone (it's probably easier because I'm a guy) - I just pick the place I want start and when/where I want to finish, book 1-2 days at a hotel to allow me to get oriented - then I wing the rest. The Lonely Planet guidebooks are indispensible for this style of travel, I'm seriously considering Transylvania (Romania) in November...

While I do sometimes go to places such as movies alone, I would prefer to go with a good friend. If I am alone, I tend to stay at home more to be more completely alone. Like instead of going to a movie alone I will just wait until it comes out on DVD and buy it if it got good reviews, because if I can't go see it in theaters with somebody else, I would prefer not to have all of those other people there. Basically, I am very outgoing if I have somebody with me.

Ive gone to quite a few concerts on my own and I prefer those to the ones where Im accompanied.
I can drift apart from the crowd for a while if Im getting overwhelmed (which is very likely to happen unless its a concert with less than 20 people)without bothering anyone.

I dont stop anyone from joining me but having to go alone to a concert doesnt stop me from going.

Been trying to mix concerts with a bit of tourism(most international bands only go to Madrid/Barcelona and every now and then I make an exception and go to a big concert) and Ive seen that Im becoming more reliable by myself. Last time I ended up helping others with public transport destinations...

Similar thing applies to going to the cinema/walking around the city centre... I dont mind other people´s company(unless they make an effort being mean to me or something)but I can do things by myself if theres need to.

Everybody needs their "alone time", especially aspies.

It's actually a matter of how you percieve it. If you go to a concert or a restaurant or something and start thinking you're a loser or something yeah, that's pretty bad. Some people like me do just like that (perhaps low self esteem, confidence, care what other people think, etc.). If you say " I don't mind anyone else", go for it and actually enjoy, that's just great for you!

I think I read somewhere that you shouldn't be afraid to go to places like that on you're own, although if you ie go to a movie and ask one ticket people will look at you and think things that's my problem with it

I enjoy going to concerts alone. Although the last one had terrible sound but entertaining nonetheless. Its the driving to an unknown place that puts me in panic mode but I just make myself do it anyway. I tell myself "You can't stop living." Yes, I usually feel weird or almost get lost when meandering around the venue. But then, we all file in and get seated then I might talk to a few people. The times I went with someone it was only fun two times. The other times we got separated or someone complained that they could be somewhere else. I have been to metal concerts, classic rock, bluegrass, recitals and I like traditional bagpipe music too (that was an awesome time). Metal concerts I kept clear of the floor area in preference to the first balcony right of the stage. Excellent sound and view, plus there are usually seats if you don't care to stand.

Restaurants are the only time when I feel like I'm alone. Maybe I'll get over that, maybe not. I usually get stuff take-out and enjoy it at the park or at home with a movie. What's funny is NTs that I know, never have an issue with going to a restaurant alone. Its like they're a scout, scoping out good eats somewhere and relaying the news back to base community.

Yes, I do Grisha. I have traveled Internationally by myself as well and will probably do so again. I have NO problems with it. I also have gone to many various events on my own and had a great time.

I have some things I WANT to do for myself, alone. I'm with you, I might not ever find someone I'm compatible with but that's not going to stop me from doing what I want to do. People can go places with other people and still not connect, still be alone, feel alone, although it might not look that way on the outside.

At 49 years of age, I'm getting too old to worry what other people might think about me.

I go to the beach, gym, sometimes movies alone.

But it's involuntary, life would be more interesting with company of friends.

I used to be that way in restaurants too - but it was mostly from being self-conscious about it. I got over it when I started doing quite a bit of business travel and had no choice but to eat alone in restaurants, then I learned that you could actually survive the ordeal. These days I'm likely to have my face stuck in the iPad though, another member mentioned having a newspaper or book...