AS - AS relationships are awesome

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Never had a mutual aspie relationship. I'm intrigued though. is there an aspie dating site or anything?

Not really. The site Alex has Aspie Affection is BROKEN; some members cant log in or register new accounts or search or other things. I tried a few other autism dating sites & they had very few members & were DEAD except for scammers/spammers. Considering AS & autism are 4x more common with guys & that the social roles make it harder for Aspie guys to find relationships(I am NOT saying that Aspie women have an easy time finding or maintaining relationships) the whole idea of an Aspie/autistic dating sites seems like it's doomed from the start sense most all the members would be frustrated Aspie guys.
Anyways I was extremely lucky & accidentally met my Aspie girl Megz a couple months ago here on WP by making a post about wanting to find someone but I wasn't really trying or excepting to find anyone here; I was talking about & trying nonWP but this is a hell of a lot better. I really wish I had better advice for you than to hope you somehow meet someone on WP by posting or somehow accidentally meeting someone somewhere else but I cant think of anything

I suppose they could go in for polyamory.



That's actually pretty good advice. To add to it, I'd say try to live an interesting life, and eventually someone special will be interested.

Thanks, I think that's the best way anyways. It would just be nice to meet someone who could relate to me on the level. Here's one: Do you think that girls who have a different social or psych difficulties, like adhd, ocd could be as relatable as an ASD or atleast more than NT in a relationship?

Based on my limited experience that I mentioned earlier here; I think they may tend to be more relatable than typical NTs but may not be as relatable as another Aspie. I never had a chance with any other girls/women. I think a lot of it could depend on other factors as well instead of someone simply being an Aspie, an NT or an NT with differences; it's NOT a black & white one size fits all thing. Part of why I connected so well with my ex was because I'm also dyslexic, & have ADHD & OCD; my dyslexia may of been a little better than her's or affected me differently & my ADHD was a lot better than her's & my OCD was a bit worse & she related to that a lot better than a typical NT could. My Aspie girl does not have those issues but she's understanding & is a lot more supportive than anyone I ever met

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I have difficulties with getting in to a relationship with women, don't get me wrong I have had sexual relations and relationships but they never led anywhere, its very hard for me to tell if someone likes me or not.

I've never had a relationship with a woman who has AS or anything like that so it could be that I haven't met anyone on my level but it is very annoying that I can't seem to find someone even though I have very good characteristics within my personality and according to other women, better then average looking man.

I just don't understand what's wrong with me you know?

Yea, everybody is different I just think having someone to speak with and vent to on that level would be a huge mile stone for me. There isn't a very a large aspie population around here and the ones i have met are male and aren't very relatable as friends. I think a sweet, open minded NT woman would suit me well. I have only told one girl who i was dating about my aspergers and she was understanding in a sense, but really self absorbed. I'm not in a rush, I have a lot to do, but even a friend to meet up with and have something like this in common would be great. My best friend is totally unsupportive the few times i have brought it up. I love having this site so I can relate to others in this sense.



You have to be comfortable with yourself, women have a sixth sense pertaining to self confidence. Don't look at it as something that's wrong with you, I have before and it didn't lead to anything good. Just be yourself and if you want to improve you are perfectly capable of doing so. I've practiced a bit with girls who I wouldn't normally speak with and the communication alone has taken me further.

Yeah I guess, I think I am not happy with my body and even though its not fat fat and I do look quite slim, when I sit down I feel and look horrible so I tend to pull the t-shirt out then let go so it looks natural, I guess people pick up on stuff like this.

Communication isn't much of a problem for me but its the what to talk about that gets me everytime, all the things I love like anime/manga, computer games etc. is stuff that no other woman has an interest in, which is an issue itself but my biggest issue is not being able to hide my feelings well, like you said people have a sense that can tell if I am sad or nervous or something and I have no way of hiding that.

I can relate man, women love to talk about themselves as long as you don't get too personal too fast. anything from their favorite restaurants to favorite bands are hot topics. If you aren't familiar with their interests, show interest in knowing more about them. Hopefully they'll show mutual respect and interest. Having things in common aren't all that important, but openess to learning more about them can be. You'll be fine, women date jerks and dousche bags all the time, so a nice guy should be refreshing for them.

Aspie social groups!

Any "Aspie" social groups in England at all?

Plenty. Just look them up.

As for me, I feel very disappointed with love. It doesn't like me very much.

Well I live near Brighton & Hove so do you know any that are near there?

not t0 be blunt but i dont really care if its to perceived to be a bad or good idea for aspies to date. i just want as much info/relationship advice as humanly possible.

i cant help it i like aspie girls and guys i feel like i resonate on the same frequency and we cna understand one another better.

my first relationship was with an aspie guy and he pushed me away because he has a hard time letting go of past relationships and letting love and he is going through a difficult tiem in his life.it just wasnt a healthy relationship. im just having a really really hard time getting over him even though i know i deserve better.
there is another aspie guy tha ti kind of like now but i just broke up 2 weeks ago with my last bf and i got really depressed hanging out with the new guy and comparing it to my last relationship.
i dont want my feelings for my ex to get in the way forever or ill become even more suicidal.
i also have a crush on this girl who funny enough dosent have aspergers.

i just want to know what to do! i want a relationship book for as-as or for someone who has as not for the partner who has as(normally a guy)

I'm NT and my guy is AS and it can be very difficult since we are so different. It must be easier when you start with a similar base.
I love him my highly intelligent, tall, handsome, AS guy. So, I think the passion can be there either way. ☺️

It can go both ways. An AS partner is more likely to be patient and understanding of your issues, and more likely to have hobbies in the same 'ballpark' as you. But we are all just folks, with several awesome aspies, several a**hole aspies, and most in the middle.