The Anti-Gold Diggers Alarm System.

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Keep in mind that it's only suspicious when it is asked as the first or second question ever, even before knowing the person's name. So it's really rare, but it does happen. Like that girl who stroke Grisha and asked him this question, before asking him what's his name.

I made it clear:



You surely don't do this that early, don't you? If you do, then stop doing it because it would give a bad idea.


and not all men love their jobs and are passionate enough to talk about them outside work.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 18 Sep 2011, 5:52 pm, edited 3 times in total.

Gold-diggers don't only target rich men, they would try to get whatever good provider they can get and one earns and naive enough to buy them all the expensive stuff they want. Of course, their dream would be getting the richest man possible, but it's not usually feasible. So men from middle-class and above can be targets for gold-diggers too, not only the rich men.

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seeing this post, the question that popped into my head was... what is it like for females in Lebanon that the OP is so concerned with gold-digging women? turns out i live in a completely different world, which may explain why gold-digging women are not so common here.

-women in Lebanon have an 82% literacy rate - men have 93% (women and men in Canada equally have 99%)
-21.7% of the Lebanese labour force are women (in Canada it is 47.3% females in the workforce)
-unemployment rates in Lebanon are 12 to 14% (men only) and in Canada are about 7 to 8% (men and women)
-about 28% of the population lives below the poverty line in Lebanon, as opposed to about 9-10% in Canada


Lebanese women have entirely different circumstances, including limited economic opportunities. so it kind of stands to reason that women in Lebanon would be more concerned about their financial futures in relation to men, as opposed to how women in my country would feel.

Ive never met a gold digger that I know of. But Ive met call girls in certain places. They have direct questions meant to appraise you as well.

So in Canada. if a girl asks a guy "What do you do for a living?" before even knowing his name, wouldn't that be even suspicious just because women labor rate there is high?

You made me spill my coffee!

no, not at all. men ask me this all the time too. if you just meet someone you fairly universally ask this question ("so... what do you do?"). it is definitely awkward for people who don't work, and those people have practiced responses.

Even before introducing yourself and knowing your name?

Yeah, the truth affect some people that way...

i've never seen someone ask that question before being introduced. that would be odd. so people just walk up to each other, don't introduce themselves, and ask each other's jobs in Lebanon?

Yes, it happened to me a couple of times (one time at the swimming club, then she asked ,"sorry what's your name?"), and it seems that it happened to Grisha today too, NYC isn't in Lebanon obviously. Now don't tell this wouldn't be suspicious in Canada, we are talking human common sense here, your stats are irrelevant to it. Before judging me as paranoid, READ my whole first point in the OP, REREAD it now. You obviously just read the bold.

it's like walking to a girl at some bar and asking her "what are you doing tonight (or this weekend?)"before anything else- Creepy.

i've never heard of someone asking someone else's job before asking their name. if it happened to you, clearly the people were rude if not severely unbalanced. if it happened to Grisha once, i would assume the same thing about that person.

i actually did get asked out by someone who did not know my name or anything about me, but it was a lower-functioning autistic person. i think he lacked some social filters, but i sure as heck wouldn't assume he was _X_ or _Y_ based on that question.

That sentence "Sorry, what's your name?" is also an obvious red flag pending context. She certainly doesn't sound interested in you as person if she trying to figure out how rich you are first via asking about occupation.

Frankly if a woman tried to hug me and and ask "what do you do for a living?" before saying anything else, I'd say it's none of her damn business.

I've been asked that by women on dating sites in the 1st message & I've never gotten a 2nd message when I replied that I was currently looking for a job

Having thought about it some, I don't think what happened to me last night a Terminal 5 was necessarily a gold-digger come-on.

I was a serious, well-dressed, older guy standing in the back of a club snapping the occasional picture - I'm not surprised that maybe she thought there was an interesting story behind that - maybe she thought I was a record company executive or band manager or something...

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldne ... -love.html

In China's booming cities, prospective husbands are now routinely vetted about whether they own a house, and preferably also a car, before a match can be agreed. Tying the knot without a house as part of the deal is jokingly called a "naked marriage" and widely thought to be a risky choice.

"I would choose a luxury house over a boyfriend that always makes me happy without hesitation," said one 24-year-old contestant on If You Are the One, one of China's most popular television dating shows. "And my boyfriend has to have a monthly salary of 200,000 yuan (£18,900)," she demanded.

In a bid to temper the rising expectations of Chinese women, China's Supreme Court has now ruled that from now on, the person who buys the family home, or the parents who advance them the money, will get to keep it after divorce.

"Hopefully this will help educate younger people, especially younger women, to be more independent, and to think of marriage in the right way rather than worshipping money so much," said Hu Jiachu, a lawyer in Hunan province.

The ruling should also help relieve some of the burden on young Chinese men, many of whom fret about the difficulty of buying even a small apartment. China's huge property bubble has driven property prices in Shanghai up to £5,000 per square metre when annual salaries average just £6,000