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I'm an Aspie who has no job & a girlfriend; I'm on disability so I do have a small income but it's not enough for me to live alone so I'm living with my parents for now. My girl has her own plan to become financially successful & I'm very supportive of that. My point is that there are other ways guys can support women besides supporting them financially; you can be supportive of her goals & dreams

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I am in the same boat, but very actively looking for work.

yes, very true. i was the major breadwinner in the household with my husband for many years. he was free to do his art and philosophy. he took care of me emotionally, did the housework, cared for our child etc..

You do get dates though....


I don't think you need the 100k income most aspies around here seem to think you do

This may be appliable to some females but as the_face_of_boo latest thread says you dont want to end up with one of those and they are doing us a favor by refusing to date guys like us.

Allow me to repeat myself for whats probably the 100th time. There are other qualities beyond looks and money and you have to focus on what you do have instead of what you dont have and try to improve what you can improve, I know that you cant get rich in one day or have some cosmetic operation if you cant afford them but your main problem right now is the attitude and obsessing about how all females want something you dont have.

Well I'm sure lost here.

I'm 21, have a great job and live alone, I don't judge my appearence but I'm not the nerdiest looking person you'll see, and girls don't talk to me.

That could be explained by the fact that even though some members may have some trouble admitting money and status arent most girls priorities nowadays.

There's much negativity about geek men in the media (despite the geeks' success stories like Steve jobs and Bill gates, Mark zuckerberg...etc).

Geeks are often portrayed as mommy men, basement lurkers, social losers, fat/thin/weak/ugly and poorly-groomed.
The only positive picture about them is their smartness, but it doesn't compensate much.

So if anyone looks typically geek (in the media sense), and wants to increase his chances with girls, the wisest thing to do: Try as much as you can, to get rid of your typical geek looks.

You can remain geek as interests, they don't have to know you're a geek from day 1, but you don't have to look 'geek' too .It's the 'geek look' what reminds about the TV's geek characters and what turns them off subconsciously.

-Get a more stylish haircut.
-Work out. A weak or fat body is the typical 'geeky' look.
- If you can stand lenses, use them instead of glasses, if you can afford a laser operation, do it. If none is possible, get a more stylish glasses, glasses with no borders , don't go to frog-eyes glasses.
-Do not wear very geeky shirts, never wear video games shirts.
-Do not listen to the "Nooo but I like the geeky-looking guys!" comments here, you know I am right.

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Kudos The_Face_of_Boo....you've given the first sensible advice I've seen on this sub-forum. However, if I may comment.....

How do I know what a stylish one is? Need I go somewhere expensive for this?



I'm not weak-looking or fat really....though I'm not muscular either. I would say I just have an average body type.



Yeah, women hate glasses. My eyes are too sensitive for lenses.....I'm not a candidate for laser surgery (doctor said my prescription changes too much), but I do have designer glasses now. Check.



Good advice. I don't have video game shirts (don't play them), but I have comic shirts hehe.



Best advice yet Women's words and actions are two very different things.

Now, even if I took all this advice, I still have a couple problems: I'm pale-skinned, have freckles, and brown eyes. Yeah, I could work on getting a tan for the first thing (though I burn easily ), but there's really nothing I could do about the latter two.

lol what? now brown eyes are a turn-off to women too?!

As my uncle says "everything can be seen as a distraction when one doesnt want to study".

SadAspy is focused on blaming women for all his trouble and hopefully one day he´ll change his attitude and realize that he needs to work on himself before he can get into a stable relationship

i know, but i would just love to see how he can justify brown eyes as a negative thing.

Green eyes and blue eyes are considered more attractive. Don't deny it. You didn't even bother rebutting anything else I said, so even if you disagree with the eyes thing, you know everything else I said is true.

{raises hand} I prefer men with brown eyes. I'll date men with other color eyes, but I won't find them as attractive.

s**t, gonna go ditch my boyfriend because of his pale skin and brown eyes. brb.

C'n'I have 'im? Pretty please?