How can you meet someone at the supermarket

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That happened to me once a few years ago and the guy said, "I guess you must think I'm stalking you" when we reached for the same item. I'm sure he was just trying to be funny, but it was a little creepy and I'd just learned of a death in my family that morning and was not in a good mood, so I just gave him a dirty look. Apparently, it was a really dirty look because he actually apologized profusely and walked away. I still feel badly about that, since he probably was a nice guy and just try to come up with something witty off the top of his head. It's really no mystery I'm single, lol.

Approaching a girl at the supermarket would require an extremely cold approach.
I would never be able to have the required social ability, the nerve nor the motivation to do this.

Ive done a lot of cold approaches but never at the supermarket. I need more to work with and something about supermarkets stresses me out.

I'm guessing then you're going to jump out of a freezer in front of her then, or open a packet of ice creams and paddle her with them

I'd try to fill her cleavage.

Seriously, judging produce is often difficult to do, so asking someone about that could be a reasonable way to start a conversation. I told my ex-wife that a good way to check for good apples is to tap them and listen for a sound which is not a "thud." She was shopping alone and checking the apples when a guy asked her if the apples are talking to her. She said "Yes, the tell me if they are too ripe."

I would find it weird if someone approached me at the supermarket. But I guess the advantage of it is that it is hard to be cornered there, there are long aisles to run away from people down.

If someone was to start talking to me at the supermarket I would prefer just a casual friendly approach. It would look weird if they started talking about the items in my basket so they should avoid doing that. It would also be weird if they pointed to my basket and I had something embarrassing in it.

You could ask her where to find the condoms.

I am afraid that's my problem too, but I am trying to get over it.

If someone hit on me in the supermarket I would find it extremely annoying. I am there to purchase foods, not get a date. That and I would already be pre-stressed out if the supermarket was busy.

Ironically ,I am in a similar situation .I would like to get to know a girl I see at the supermarket that I go to .It's not very likely I have the social skills to pull it off. I think if the girl is someone you see quite regularly at the store your odds are much better since you wouldn't have to go for broke and ask her out immediately after the initial conversation .The next time you see her start with a small goal and try to force yourself to say something to her even if it is just asking her if she knows where a certain item is .

Fortunately that is YOU.That is how you would react,not every woman is going to react that way,there are too many factors to consider ,probably the biggest being whether or not she finds the guy who starts a conversation attractive.For someone who has AS I think while the odds of a successful encounter are slim[at a supermarket],they still are significantly better than trying to meet someone in a crowded bar which would be next to impossible for me at least.

I know it's me. It may work for some people. But most people are really there to get their shopping. I son't see how someone would like someone socially awkward more in a supermarket than anywhere else, but I don't know. Maybe they do?

But then, it is something to be considered.. A lot of women might be a bit put out by it. Buying food, toothpaste etc can be kind of a personal thing.

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A person who is socially awkward has better odds in a quieter less pressured atmosphere.Okay,perhaps a supermarket is the wrong place but bars are the last place a socially awkward person is going to make any kind of headway.

Players say it works better because you wouldn't expect it coming, there's the element of surprise about it, girls who are going to club would, after spending hours of doing makeup, would expect to get flirted and there would be far more competition there. And at the supermarket the guy don't have to go through a girl’s friends who are often additional scanners.