27 Sep 2011, 10:52 pm
Haha I wasn't a hard-core metal chick but I was very angry and had casual sex on a whim. My musical tastes are far too diverse (and always have been) to be considered a metal-head.
http://www.hottopic.com/hottopic/Homepage.jsp
It's an American store, but I'm willing to bet there's an equivalent in Europe somewhere. 
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27 Sep 2011, 10:55 pm
Just be agressive when flirting with a metal chick they often like that do not appear weak or.
They will know trust me I dated a metal chick in the past 
Her name was Amber Lasher an she was a complete b***h 
27 Sep 2011, 10:57 pm
They will know trust me I dated a metal chick in the past
Her name was Amber Lasher an she was a complete b***h
Aggressive flirting?
Like... "You look like a ***** who needs some ******* tonight. No, don't speak. I said shutup, let's go upstairs and makeout and I'll buy you a beer." Lol, joking but seriously what do you mean by aggressive?
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28 Sep 2011, 9:11 am
What they are saying is that they are only attracted to men who are full-fledged members of their subculture. Dabbling is not enough. If you want to be with them, you have to immerse yourself 100% in their subculture otherwise they will not even consider you. If you are not willing to do that, there is no type of flirting that will help. They have made it clear what their conditions are - total commitment to the subculture- and if you aren't willing to meet those conditions, you have no chance.
^^^This. And by 100% immersion it means you have to buy into the whole mentality of it.
I could be way off-base here, but consider this: If you really want to date metal gurlz, try training for it. I'd imagine punk is a little easier to break into and a little more relaxed life-style wise, and they eschew superficial attitudes and mannerisms. Metal, on the other hand, is ALL superficial. I mean, you can be a metalhead and still be a nice guy. I'm just saying there are more superficial rules to fitting in.
I think people in general live by a "don't dish it out if you can't take it attitude." You'll get further with that whole "I listen to REAL music" if you learn to effectively defend your musical tastes.
"Wait, you listen to [X] but you hate [Y]? OK, that doesn't make any sense. You freakin' poser (ultimate insult), [Y's guitarist] is so much more musically talented than [X's guitarist], and [X's bassist] plays with a pick!! ! (ultimate bass player insult) I mean, are you kidding me??? You're not the metalhead I thought you were. I bet you listen to Avril Lavigne when nobody's looking. I bet you have Justin Beaver on your iPod. Maybe if you listen to some more BLS we can start having an actual intelligent discussion."
Something like that. I was a little kid back in the 80's, so metal to me means G'N'R, Metallica, all those LA hair bands, and maybe some Pantera and Pearl Jam (but I HATE Nirvana). I listened to Effervescence, uh, I mean, Evanescence, and Linkin Park, and think Nickelback is just another Metallica who can crack a smile every now and then. Creed was OK, too. And I wish the band I'm stuck in right now would do more metal. Heck, I'd settle for a "Helter Skelter" cover (the way Macca does it in his live shows, which will friggin melt your face off) or "Enter Sandman." But alas, I'm the youngest member of an "old farts" group. My current fave is "Stand Up and Shout" by Steel Dragon.
Steel Dragon was AWESOME. How come we don't hear from them anymore?
j/k
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28 Sep 2011, 9:13 am
Now I know why you scare me.
28 Sep 2011, 10:48 am
So, how ARE you metal?
28 Sep 2011, 12:52 pm
To this whole f*****g thread.
P.S. black metal sucks
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28 Sep 2011, 1:39 pm
Well I could consider myself a 'metal chick' I do love metal music after all.....but personally I don't really like flirting I prefer if guys start a conversation or something with me. Or if they are really at a loss of what to say and like whatever band happens to be displayed on my shirt they can compliment me on my awesome shirt.
lol I did not know us metal chicks were so intimidating 
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28 Sep 2011, 1:42 pm
I made a thread about that
Asking some questions in: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp4048010.html#4048010
I'm sure they're not all like that but many are. but if I just behave like a thug what's to distinguish me from the other men there? I usually like to distinguish myself through my impeccable speech and manners.
I honestly don't think many girls who like grunge and heavy metal care about that sort of thing. If you want to catch them, you have to appeal to them. You said you didn't want to marry them. What's the problem then? Just pretend to be like that to get sex and go back to yourself when it's over.
Actually metal chicks hate it if you just act like you enjoy metal to get laid.....it makes us even more angry and unwilling to trust guys. I am not joking a guy did this to me and I was so upset about it when I put the peices together and came to that conclusion that I just stopped talking to him. I went all kvlt on him(lol black metal reference sorry if you don't get it.)
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28 Sep 2011, 1:47 pm
I didn't say they were all like that. But the ones I met, you know with the black leather and all they were like "What bands do you like?" so I list a couple of metal bands and then I move on to other genres and she goes "You're pathetic, I only talk to people who like good music and that means listen only to metal." then another chick told me "You don't dance to metal you idiot", at last one pushed me and went "Dress f***ing nice when you come to a club like this"... (By nice she meant not wearing jeans and an oxford shirt and a pair of moccasins...)
So yeah, there are many chicks like that it seems.
Why bother trying to flirt with them? They're unpleasant people, and I imagine if you do get somewhere with one you'd be miserable.
It's a shame some people think musical taste defines a person.
It never totally defines a person, but it can say quite a bit......I honestly cannot imagine having a good relationship with someone who has horrible taste in music because I am really into music so listening to music I can enjoy with someone I have a good connection with is quite amazing to me. Now I would not try and be a jerk to a guy with terrible taste in music if they approach me but yeah I do admit that plays a role in if I want to attempt a relationship with someone.
