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The age-old topic of the subject's awareness while being drawn/painted/photographed/etc is very complex.

My philosophy, in a nutshell, is that when I'm practicing my drawing/painting,
I'm not interested in telling a story or promoting an agenda.
I'm only interested in the visual elements: (line, shape, light, dark, color, etc.)
I don't draw people, I draw their incident light. I render them like I would any other prop.
(To pretend they are not there is to accuse my retinas of lying.)
The image of a thing is not the thing itself, nor is there ownership between the two. (I believe in rare exceptions.)

Besides, my practice works are only meant to be seen
by other artists who can coach my technique.
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I went thru MetalAspies "Creeper" checklist. My results look pretty bad.

It should have arrived Monday morning. It's now Thursday afternoon.
No response.
No surprise.

I probably "overdid it", but you have to understand: She told me I was interesting,
so I thought she was expecting a little eccentricity.
I guess writing in ink was inexcusable.

She hasn't even seen the painting,
so this does save me the trouble of explaining why
there are anthropomorphic pirate rats in the background.

She texted me!
about 4 hours ago
and asked to see the painting.
I'll probably reply later today.

The caveat is the painting isn't finished/presentable.
I don't know if I should mention that.

awes. it would have been better if you didnt mail it to her, but instead said 'lets meet so i can give it to you'

a good way to further a relationship is to talk and hit it off. talk lightly, not about super serious topics (no religion, no politics, nothing like that). then say you have somewhere to be, and you better get going. turn away, then turn back and say 'hey, you seem really cool (or fun, or insert other word), i'd like to RE-CONNECT with you sometime' (this word is crucial, use it. girls like the thought of 'connecting'). whip out your phone, and say 'give me your number'.

NO HESITATION. NO MEEK-ness. you gotta be 100% CONFIDENT.

then wait for FOUR DAYS before you call her. FOUR. no less. dont call her the next day, or you fail, and it will kill the attraction or dampen it. you want her to be thinking of you, and what you are doing, and why you arent calling her. this way when you DO call she'll be like 'OH EM GEE, ITS THAT GUY' then schedule something with you (like a date).

go mini golfing maybe? dates should be something you think both of you will have fun doing, TOGETHER.

We exchanged 7 text messages tonight. ... So much for the waiting game.
I sent my 1st reply before Fullofstars' post. I wasn't trying to go against ppl's advice.
She kept asking questions. I didn't see the point in waiting, since she knows
I have my phone on me. That would seem like hesitation.

I told her to check my web gallery tomorrow,
which I now think was a mistake, because if I communicate the images online,
that's one less incentive for her to meet me in person.

Thanks for the encouragement Lex.
"hooked" might be a bit strong.
She declined an invitation to meet to see the painting in person, so it may have
been an inconvenient time/place or it may be her way of telling me she's not that interested.
I uploaded a demo of a part of the painting to my gallery so she can see,
but I omitted the interesting part to leave some mystery.

I want to invite her to a concert I have tickets for that's happening in about a week.
(sold out a while ago - it's a big deal)
I don't know if I should text and ask "Do you like [the band]?" first or
skip straight to the invite. I don't know if I should ask her email so I
can send the full version of the painting, or keep that so I can offer
to pass it to her at the concert. It's hard to act in the absence of knowledge.
I wish this whole precursor dating protocol was less confusing.

(These questions may seem obvious but they still stress me out even tho I try to relax.)

She accepted my invitation to the concert.
thx for the advice. I'll play it by ear from here on out.

Oh, btw, this is what the painting looks like —> http://fatal-noogie.deviantart.com/art/ ... -265830461

AWESOME! keep us updated. i am sure the art is amazing, and will view the pic later as i can't see it on my phone. *grinning stupidly on the bus, heh*

Trippy, I like it

Fatal-Noogie, it is beautiful and full of character, your very own style. love it.