Staying single for.. EVER?

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I'd love to be single the rest of my life. 's hard though. For some reason I can't fo the life of me understand, I feel like I am continually pursued. It's getting a little easier now that I'm older. The "hey, I could be your dad!" line seems like a pretty good turn-off for college girls.

It's possible I will be single forever. There's more important things in life.

I've really come to the conclusion that this sort of emptiness is relative anyway. If you're surrounded by the right people and falling to major lapses of judgement that's one thing, if you're living your life the best way you can and there's no one in sight it's a whole other situation.

That sounds pretty asexual to me. There are many variations on the theme, anyway--people who masturbate and people who don't; people who want romance, cuddling, and kissing versus people who don't. Some of us find others beautiful and even get crushes. Some of us want to get married. The only thing that really makes a person asexual is that you don't look at people and go, "Boy, I'd really like to have intercourse with that person." There's also the idea of "demisexual", which is what you're referring to when you say "your position might change"--demisexual people don't really have a sex drive until they are in love with someone, and then they are attracted only to that person. They have a lot in common with asexuals.

It's your deal what you want to call yourself, of course. People don't come in neat little boxes--labels are only a matter of convenience. You're just yourself, whatever label you use, or whether you decide not to stick labels on yourself at all.

oh i have but it's a whole different thing then pretending to make a kid but at the end trowing it away in a condom.

you ever realize that there will be certain missing stimuli by being single?
touch, smell, sight, sound, taste
if you really want me to go further in those stimuli then you probably need to get out a wee bit more

oh sure but i won't hold back if i
Feel like needing that, im not THAT stubborn. Its not that i forbid myself from doing it all its more of a feeling.

There are certain missing stimuli from not doing anything. Jumping off a bridge or eating glass surely creates unique stimuli but I don't think I'll be doing either one any time soon.

I think you have good plan...but I seek to take it a step further...

celibacy and ignorance of relationships.

I don't want kids for starters...and the few minutes of pleasure for the risks it has is simply not worth it to me.

And I don't want the drama or nuisance of a relationship with a woman (not gay).

So for me, I basically said "F*** It", it's not worth it to me.

But maybe you have a plan that can work. Best of luck.

I got myself fixed so I'd never have to worry about kids. Best $10 I ever spent in my life.

To me, sex was never more than having a conversation in touch-thoughts. I don't think any of my partners ever saw it that way, though. Too much possessiveness issues. People wanting to "own" each other or not be "owned" by each other.

Never made any sense to me so I gave up on it. Besides, I found that it was really the cuddling and affection part of the touch-conversation that I enjoyed.

I get that from kittens, in spades. Not worried about the kids, not worried about diseases. Worried about being owned and manipulated. Again.

I guess that makes me demi-sexual then.

To the OP: I wouldn't be devastated if I were single for life, I would only pursue a long term relationship with exactly the right person. If I don't find that person (which is quite possible) then I'm not going there with anyone else.

Well, I never get hit on, at least I don't think so, but that is probably because I don't appear friendly to most people. I am single, always will be and am happy about it. I prefer being alone most of the time and am happy this way. I think the important thing is to ask yourself, If you are happy that way.

I'm with you--way too much emotional intimacy--kids, being around someone 24/7, um no!

I don't really get hit on any more either, possibly because I'm getting older, I wear loose clothing and never dress sexy, and maybe I'm getting better at putting out "leave me alone, I don't want to interact with you" vibes.

I did have to stop wearing my "hugs 25 cents" shirt because that really got people bothering me although thankfully none ever tried to hug me and none ever noticed the obscene line below that which was printed smaller. I like wearing obscene t-shirts that are inappropriate for my gender. That one was the only one that got comments from strangers other than the occasional "I like your shirt".

So what about me? I'm over 30, single, want to find a man and I want children (even aspie children ) but the guys I'm attracted to are never interested in me and the only guys who ever hit on me are losers, leches, or immigrants after a residence visa....

i would say hang in there and don't sell yourself to a man for the sake of it, you can always adopt kids.