15 Oct 2011, 9:50 pm
16 Oct 2011, 2:33 am
zen_mistress wrote:
I think that the internet can become a real crutch and trap at times. It is something that really has to be kept in check. I just was outside gathering lemons in the sunshine from the lemon tree and that was a nice experience. But somehow being on the internet can just suck you in.
Maybe I can wean myself away from WP by taking my laptop outside and use WiFi until the battery dies. At that point, I'll probably then blink, look around and say "Hey, I remember this!" IIRC its called non-virtual reality. Then, if its a nice day, I'll be able to resist the urge to immediately run inside and reconnect!"
16 Oct 2011, 4:11 am
16 Oct 2011, 4:28 am
Rocky wrote:
Maybe I can wean myself away from WP by taking my laptop outside and use WiFi until the battery dies. At that point, I'll probably then blink, look around and say "Hey, I remember this!" IIRC its called non-virtual reality. Then, if its a nice day, I'll be able to resist the urge to immediately run inside and reconnect!"
Yes, I think that being on the internet too much makes real life seem less exciting somehow. So that is where the danger lies...
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I think it's more to do with enjoying and embracing the present moment without being over analytical or having any distractions, worries or a sense of urgency. I sometimes wonder this with people who are always on their phones or concerned about idle chatter such as gossip or worrying, I wonder if they ever stop and realize there's more to life.
I think that perhaps the internet does something real and physical, such as overstimulate the mind visually and intellectually/emotionally.
It is said to increase dopamine levels. This leads to the brain adapting- it then needs this sort of stimulation to produce enough dopamine- real life wont have the same effect anymore. Though if someone took a break from the internet the brain would adjust back.
This is how junk food works too. It has components which hijack a number of reward systems in the brain, and it has more of these components than ordinary, healthy food.
So if a person eats junk food often enough over a certain period of time, the brain stops producing reward chemicals in response to say, fruit, and instead needs a candy bar for the same reward chemical response, or some fatty meal instead of a healthy casserole.
Anyway will tune back out of the nerd tangent I just went off on.
16 Oct 2011, 4:59 am
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anna-banana wrote:
funny I was just thinking about this today how I become such a terrible navel-gazer the more time I spend on this subforum. all this self-analysis and introspection is really counter-productive when my main problem with dating is relating to other people.
You're right, Ryan has been claiming you've been doing a piss poor job recently at gazing at his navel. You need to stop neglecting your practice or you're going to atrophy all your real life skills.
who's Ryan?
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17 Oct 2011, 12:12 am
anna-banana wrote:
swbluto wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
funny I was just thinking about this today how I become such a terrible navel-gazer the more time I spend on this subforum. all this self-analysis and introspection is really counter-productive when my main problem with dating is relating to other people.
You're right, Ryan has been claiming you've been doing a piss poor job recently at gazing at his navel. You need to stop neglecting your practice or you're going to atrophy all your real life skills.
who's Ryan?
Someone with a navel who's been feeling particularly neglected... or a figment of my social imagination. Your choice.
17 Oct 2011, 7:13 am
Rocky wrote:
zen_mistress wrote:
I think that the internet can become a real crutch and trap at times. It is something that really has to be kept in check. I just was outside gathering lemons in the sunshine from the lemon tree and that was a nice experience. But somehow being on the internet can just suck you in.
Maybe I can wean myself away from WP by taking my laptop outside and use WiFi until the battery dies. At that point, I'll probably then blink, look around and say "Hey, I remember this!" IIRC its called non-virtual reality. Then, if its a nice day, I'll be able to resist the urge to immediately run inside and reconnect!"
this cracked me up!
i think i spend a massive amount of time on the internet, and expecially on WP, but i am also extremely busy IRL with activities that involve other people. so it is kind of a nice distraction but not all-consuming. i think it's possible to find a balance sometimes, as long as a person is not too obsessive.
people on here have helped me a lot with my problems, so i have found the site to be of value.
17 Oct 2011, 7:31 am
zen_mistress wrote:
I think that the internet can become a real crutch and trap at times. It is something that really has to be kept in check. I just was outside gathering lemons in the sunshine from the lemon tree and that was a nice experience. But somehow being on the internet can just suck you in.
OMG, you're not kidding - I went to a play last night (by myself of course) and deliberately left my iPad in the car. Usually, when I do something like this (nice restaurant, concert, etc) I am posting on WP while I'm there. I felt "naked" without it, I just stood around fiddling with my ghetto cellphone avoiding eye contact with everyone and terrified that someone would try and talk to me...
Once when I was at a concert in NYC, some guy actually told me to put my iPad away and enjoy myself.
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17 Oct 2011, 8:20 am
Grisha wrote:
zen_mistress wrote:
I think that the internet can become a real crutch and trap at times. It is something that really has to be kept in check. I just was outside gathering lemons in the sunshine from the lemon tree and that was a nice experience. But somehow being on the internet can just suck you in.
Once when I was at a concert in NYC, some guy actually told me to put my iPad away and enjoy myself.
Please tell me you were only using it between songs.
17 Oct 2011, 8:32 am
curlyfry wrote:
Grisha wrote:
zen_mistress wrote:
I think that the internet can become a real crutch and trap at times. It is something that really has to be kept in check. I just was outside gathering lemons in the sunshine from the lemon tree and that was a nice experience. But somehow being on the internet can just suck you in.
Once when I was at a concert in NYC, some guy actually told me to put my iPad away and enjoy myself.
Please tell me you were only using it between songs.
Yes I did.
When the band was onstage I had something else to do besides feel awkward...
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17 Oct 2011, 5:26 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
swbluto wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Wrongplanet simply doesn't reflect reality.
Hehe, you got be careful of thinking that the views from people on the Wrong Planet is the same as the views from people on the Right Planet.
and the views on the Wrong Planet wouldn't necessarily reflect the actions/choices on the Right Planet by the same people.
Yep, people who lie in the Right Planet to make people feel better probably don't hesitate to lie in the Wrong Planet to make people feel better.
(I'm just joking there, I understand that what one theoretically doesn't "really care" about in their mind actually is something they care about in real life. Some just don't really know themselves that well.)
