22 Oct 2011, 2:16 pm
curlyfry wrote:
It seems your the one pursuing so don't be afraid to take the reins.
I'm not afraid, but it's extremely tiresome. At some point the reins need to be shared, but I don't have that expectation right now.
I gave up waiting for him and made other plans for last night. My plans fell through and I ended up watching movies with my cousin. Just before 10pm the phone rang and it was... his sister.
He had her call to apologize for not calling, and to ask if I wanted to go to a Halloween festival, today, with both of them. I told her that the next time he says he will call and he doesn't, I won't reschedule plans. So I'm out the door... this should be interesting... 
22 Oct 2011, 2:30 pm
Fullofstars wrote:
curlyfry wrote:
It seems your the one pursuing so don't be afraid to take the reins.
I'm not afraid, but it's extremely tiresome. At some point the reins need to be shared, but I don't have that expectation right now.
I gave up waiting for him and made other plans for last night. My plans fell through and I ended up watching movies with my cousin. Just before 10pm the phone rang and it was... his sister.
He had her call to apologize for not calling, and to ask if I wanted to go to a Halloween festival, today, with both of them. I told her that the next time he says he will call and he doesn't, I won't reschedule plans. So I'm out the door... this should be interesting... Yep, sounds like an Aspie to me!
22 Oct 2011, 4:51 pm
seoulgamer wrote:
Fullofstars wrote:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt175858.html
I worked up the courage to ask out the guy I've been crushing on for the last few months. Horror.
The guy: Aspie.
Me: Notsomuch.
He agreed. Relief.
We met at a place down the street from where he works, and started out the same as usual: he rattled on about his special interest until I had an oppurtunity to break in and remind him (I think gently) that I already know pretty much everything he's telling me, and that this is in fact a date, and I'd like to talk a little more about him. Panic.
He didn't seem to know the difference between talking about himself, and talking about herpatology, which was kind of adorable. I ended up asking him a few questions, which he answered like a man being interrogated for homicide. He didn't ask any questions in return. Awkward, awkward silence.
So I changed the subject back to snakes. Relief.
...and he started talking about his life. And mine. And hinting around about getting together to do something the following weekend, which I picked up and totally ran with. Hallelujah!
I had kind of an awesome time, which I wasn't expecting. Really, I thought it would take a while for him to warm up and relax (a while as in weeks, maybe months). I also didn't really expect myself to be able to be blunt enough to express my intentions. I wasn't even sure I had it in me to ask him out- but I did, and yayz! Yayz!
Ran into him the following day. This was such a random thing. In all the time I've known him I've never once run into him, I've only ever caught him at his work. So there I am, and here is he, walking towards me, and... nothing. He doesn't see me, so as we're about to pass each other I reach out and touch his shoulder and say his name and he looks TERRIFIED. Confusion.
He pulls away (I realize I probably shouldn't have touched him. I've touched him before, but in a gentler setting, when we were already in close proximity). He looks away. He slows down to a rolling stop, mumbles hello and goodbye, and goes along his way, leaving me Mystified.
I worked up the courage to ask out the guy I've been crushing on for the last few months. Horror.
The guy: Aspie.
Me: Notsomuch.
He agreed. Relief.
We met at a place down the street from where he works, and started out the same as usual: he rattled on about his special interest until I had an oppurtunity to break in and remind him (I think gently) that I already know pretty much everything he's telling me, and that this is in fact a date, and I'd like to talk a little more about him. Panic.
He didn't seem to know the difference between talking about himself, and talking about herpatology, which was kind of adorable. I ended up asking him a few questions, which he answered like a man being interrogated for homicide. He didn't ask any questions in return. Awkward, awkward silence.
So I changed the subject back to snakes. Relief.
...and he started talking about his life. And mine. And hinting around about getting together to do something the following weekend, which I picked up and totally ran with. Hallelujah!
I had kind of an awesome time, which I wasn't expecting. Really, I thought it would take a while for him to warm up and relax (a while as in weeks, maybe months). I also didn't really expect myself to be able to be blunt enough to express my intentions. I wasn't even sure I had it in me to ask him out- but I did, and yayz! Yayz!
Ran into him the following day. This was such a random thing. In all the time I've known him I've never once run into him, I've only ever caught him at his work. So there I am, and here is he, walking towards me, and... nothing. He doesn't see me, so as we're about to pass each other I reach out and touch his shoulder and say his name and he looks TERRIFIED. Confusion.
He pulls away (I realize I probably shouldn't have touched him. I've touched him before, but in a gentler setting, when we were already in close proximity). He looks away. He slows down to a rolling stop, mumbles hello and goodbye, and goes along his way, leaving me Mystified.
Wait, you mean he rambled on about his specialist interest, was all uptight about being touched, and was in general a totally awkward turtle-and it didn't turn you off completely? Has everything the internet has taught me about women been a lie?
Methinks she fancies him to the extent that his shyness is inconsequential!! Just my two thoughts!
22 Oct 2011, 4:53 pm
22 Oct 2011, 5:03 pm
22 Oct 2011, 8:31 pm
Apparently I have nothing to be worried about. He brought his sister along as some sort of interpreter/ambassador, which was amazingly useful. I wish you all had little sisters who could speak for you because, man, it was enlightening and... good. Just so, so good.
I have friends staying here from out if town but I'll definitely come back to this when I can. You guys are all so helpful and kind, and I can't thank you all enough 
'specially you mods!
22 Oct 2011, 8:47 pm
Fullofstars wrote:
Apparently I have nothing to be worried about. He brought his sister along as some sort of interpreter/ambassador, which was amazingly useful. I wish you all had little sisters who could speak for you because, man, it was enlightening and... good. Just so, so good.
I have friends staying here from out if town but I'll definitely come back to this when I can. You guys are all so helpful and kind, and I can't thank you all enough 'specially you mods!
I have friends staying here from out if town but I'll definitely come back to this when I can. You guys are all so helpful and kind, and I can't thank you all enough
'specially you mods!Told you so...
It would be awesome to have an NT wing-person, but most of us don't have that luxury - he's a lucky guy!
23 Oct 2011, 1:32 am
Fullofstars wrote:
Apparently I have nothing to be worried about. He brought his sister along as some sort of interpreter/ambassador, which was amazingly useful. I wish you all had little sisters who could speak for you because, man, it was enlightening and... good. Just so, so good.
I have friends staying here from out if town but I'll definitely come back to this when I can. You guys are all so helpful and kind, and I can't thank you all enough 'specially you mods!
I have friends staying here from out if town but I'll definitely come back to this when I can. You guys are all so helpful and kind, and I can't thank you all enough
'specially you mods!
thank you, we try.
and WOOOOOooooOOOOoooooooOOOOOOOT on things going well!
25 Oct 2011, 3:38 am
It's awesome to read about something going so well! Please do keep us updated 
For the record, if I unexpectedly see someone I know in public and I'm not "prepared" to see them, I might do the same thing he did. I've even gone so far as to turn around and just walk the other way before they see me, even if I like them a lot. What's funny is that I'm NOT a shy person, but it's like if I'm not completely prepared for social interaction, my brain freezes. Like I'm on stage and I've forgotten my lines, or something. And it's not easy to improvise if you don't know which play you're in.
