Do you feel whole or need another to complete you?

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i'm pretty independent

those people who just skip from relationship to relationship and can't be alone kinda bug me

^^ you would need a OneStepBackward to be completed....or mathematically eliminated.

or a OneStepAbove?

or OneStepWithin?

^^^ i agree with this.


i also was thinking that to me.... it's like bunnyhopping vs. leapfrogging.... i can get someplace if i hop away on my own, but it's more fun, more fulfilling, more motivating, and faster to bound along with a partner. it's not that i am less of a person when i am alone, but i am better when i am with someone who is a good match.

i've tried to be single and repeatedly attempted to convince myself it would be a good idea to be alone, but i undermine my own efforts at singlehood. when i meet someone spectacular who is attracted to me too, i cannot help but want to join up with them in some way.

my daughter is much more independent than me. she doesn't bother with relationships most of the time. she doesn't see much of a point unless she is planning to really settle down, and she doesn't want romance to interfere with her studies (she is 17).

The world can hear your snoring.

I do enjoy being single and I enjoy doing some things alone. I like the freedom of being single.

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t is not that I feel incomplete as a single person, but I do feel like I need companionship otherwise my life doesnt feel like it has meaning.

That companionship can come from having friends though. Cats and dogs help too.... but I wish they could talk.

Being single isn't that free. I can handle it but i know that i'm happy to just do nothing with my life if it's just being lived for me. For me motivation = freedom. Plus, you spend so much time when you;re single thinking about not being single, how is that free?

girls don't snore!

I am working on it On finding that other half to complete me. A lot of my friends are in steady relationships, and sure I am single and have been so for a while. For the past 5 years I have been more in than out of relationships, though. I am working on finding these qualities that make me mr. right, to someone cute, but it sure takes time and effort. I believe that it's worthwhile, though I am still making plenty mistakes. I guess the reason why I remain optimistic is that I think my social skills are actually improving over time. Earlier today I got an advice about facial expressions, and keeping it cool. It sure is an up hill struggle, but hopefully I can exploit my honesty, concept of original solutions and stubbornness to compensate for my present level of social skills. Through dedication and curiosity I have managed to make NTs comment on my behaviour, and discuss it. Thereby I learn some of the skills that were never granted me as a teenager.

After having been married for 15+ years, I do feel a need to be with someone. I seem to be better in society with someone, even to the point of being the center of attention if we both dress really nice. Alone, it's just not there.

Nice try I used to go out with one who does. Yes, she was very much a girl [1]; she's a classy lady now.

These days, ... well, I don't think I make reasonable amounts of time for another person. And if someone were satisfied with the time that I would provide... well, that seems sort-of sad to me, that someone would settle for that.

Someone out there just might *make* me make more time, without my even knowing it. I haven't found him or her yet though.

[1] At the time I was very much a boy. Now, as usual, I'm not really a man so much as an overgrown boy. Typical.

for me, anyways, sharing mutual love brings me the most happiness of anything else in the entire world. when i can look into someones eyes, and say 'i love you' and have them say 'i love you too' (and fully believe it), im in ecstasy.

i thoroughly enjoy cuddling, even tho i have asperger's syndrome. i'd rather cuddle than do ANYTHING else in the entire world.

I felt broken sense I was very little but I never had a desire to be with anyone or have any kind of relationship till I met my ex. I felt broken again & incomplete when that ended till I got together with Megz. I'm a better person when I have someone who I can relate to & turn to for support & things. Maybe it'[s because I get overwhelmed by being misunderstood & things by the rest of the world & I start to feel like there is something wrong with me

Relationships add complications to one's life. They are fraught with unknowns. This adds stress to a person's life. On the other hand, some stress can be a good thing. The right amount of stress can lead to making improvements in yourself and your life. Stress can help avoid ennui and being depressed. Each person has to decide what is the right level of stress.

Being in a relationship can be a crutch to avoid learning to handle certain things the mate can do for you. It can also force you to improve yourself in certain ways. So much depends on who the other person is, and how they match with you.

While having people in my life for occasional companionship is nice, I find being in a relationship annoying. I don't want to talk to someone or see someone every day or even every few days. When there is another person in my life to that degree, I see it as intrusive rather than helpful to my state of mind...I need my own life and my privacy. I have a lover that I see sometimes, and he is good at fufilling my occasional need for another person without overwhelming me.