Can we just get rid of this forum?

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I learned all my social skills over time. In high school, girls were creeped out by me because I'd always say really weird things to them, but I adapted and learned how to do it, mostly from watching other guys talk to girls, and watching guys talk to girls in movies and tv shows.

If theres one thing all aspies have, it's the ability to learn and hold lots of information, so if you study social cues, and copy the way NT's talk, eventually it'll just come natural and people won't even suspect that you have aspergers. I don't think any aspies is truly hopeless when it comes to romance, and everyone has the potential to get a girl.

I agree some people are just born inferior and low functioning. (like myself) No amount of hard work would ever make them appear normal, have real friends, and date.

I just wish the higher functioning would stop comparing themselves to us.


Although, I disagree about getting rid of this forum, because people like me wouldn't have a place to vent about our thoughts and feelings.

loner, missile is ready, awaiting your order sir.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 24 Oct 2011, 1:25 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think saying "I have no use for this forum, therefore nobody has any use for this forum." is a bit selfish. I've actually learned quite a bit, and identified some aspects of my personality that need changing just from reading other people's posts. Whether or not that helps in the end remains to be seen, but don't deny the rest of us the chance to try to work out our issues just because you've given up.

And yes, a lot of people use this as a place to rant and throw pity-parties, but there are just as many topics started by people who are legitimately looking for advice or trying to deal with their issues In a constructive manner.

Rule No. 1 for Aspie teens: Never trust anyone.

The problem is that the Aspies here don't get the genetic part of dating, that they are not programmed to have a girlfriend or boyfriend if they're an Aspie.

your point is based on absolutely no evidence at all. there isn't a genetic link between AS and datelessness. many aspies do date and marry, in fact.

This board receives plenty of comments a day and dont get me started on visits.

While your opinion is appreciated we have to consider that not everyone shares your opinion based on the facts above.

As soon as this board stops receiving comments alex will get rid of it, until then you are just going to have to avoid looking at it if you dont like the threads.

I was one of those desperate men but I was lonely & wanted companionship NOT sex. I met the perfect girl here on this forum sort of accidentally & things are going great between us so I do think this forum has been quite helpful to me. I do understand what you mean about it being genetics because I felt I would of had a lot more luck with relationships if I would of been NT like the majority but my girl has AS too so it works. I'm really sorry you feel this way about the forum & AS

There is a reason why "pick up/game" exists. It is to help people who are not naturally skilled socially learn the cause-effect, body positioning, correct usage of facial expressions so they can be better at finding a girl or even expanding their social circle. There is a whole community dedicated to this kind of thing.

To put out the flames?

I date once maby once a year or so. I used to date lots when i was younger, but the experiences has gives me a bitter taste. I've even been offered to become fuck-buddies with two of the girls i met. The first time i didn't realise it until my friend pointed it out <-- (Hint).

Getting a date isn't a problem, i'm sure you could get one to - the real problem is finding someone you 1) can stand being in the same room with and 2) see a future with.

For one, I'm not a teen. I'm 23.

Secondly, I've had lots of friends throughout my life. Some of them I still consider friends, some of them have f****d me over. Now I know who to trust and who I shouldn't.

People who have aspergers can pretty much do anything that any NT person can do, it's all about adapting and learning over time. There's no set rules that state what people with aspergers can and can't do.

I have dated plenty of girls my first girlfriend was a Aspie the others where NT

Oh so I guess my mother who is a diagnosed autistic holds my Stepfather down by force? She's not genetically programmed to have a partner because you have to work at it. I guess I was an immaculate conception?

My uncle, also diagnosed, has been in a relationship for 20 years, guess he's drugging the NT woman as well?

The problem with people is they base their opinions on their own experiences. Everyone is different. Not one fact applies to each and every human being. But the presumption that a diagnosis of autism immediately labels you as socially recluse and unable to form a relationship is preposterous. If I believed that I would have finished myself as soon as I was given a diagnosis. My Friends, Family and Partners mean everything to me.

I will agrgee here slightly with LonerMutant. I do think that I am not really designed for relationships. I am more designed for a courtroom or some sort of debating chamber where I can endlessly postulate my ideas and argue with others. Or perhaps I am designed for a garden with a tranquil pond where I can daydream and make things up in my head. But relationships are so detailed, so nuanced..... *shiver*.