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27 Oct 2011, 6:14 pm

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you asked for reasons why your roommate was treating you like that, and people told you - he doesn't *need* to treat you any better, so he doesn't. lots of men could treat you like gold even in a FWB situation, but this man has proven he will not. and the nature of your non-relationship puts you in a position where you can't even expect better treatment.


Maybe he is worried that if he starts treating her like gold, she will take it as him wanting something where he doesn't. I tend to try and do nice things in a FWB relationship, but I am always concerned that it will be taken as wanting something more when there isn't anything there.

sure, makes perfect sense. maybe he is trying to keep her at arms'-length so she stays by his side but not too close. getting her jealous brings her in (like Boo said, above), and making her a little angry keeps her from getting too attached. whatever reasons, it's clearly not making her happy. :(


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27 Oct 2011, 6:15 pm

If he is getting what he wants from you then he will keep playing games.



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27 Oct 2011, 9:47 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
atindo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
you asked for reasons why your roommate was treating you like that, and people told you - he doesn't *need* to treat you any better, so he doesn't. lots of men could treat you like gold even in a FWB situation, but this man has proven he will not. and the nature of your non-relationship puts you in a position where you can't even expect better treatment.


Maybe he is worried that if he starts treating her like gold, she will take it as him wanting something where he doesn't. I tend to try and do nice things in a FWB relationship, but I am always concerned that it will be taken as wanting something more when there isn't anything there.

sure, makes perfect sense. maybe he is trying to keep her at arms'-length so she stays by his side but not too close. getting her jealous brings her in (like Boo said, above), and making her a little angry keeps her from getting too attached. whatever reasons, it's clearly not making her happy. :(



Hyperlexian,

You nailed it! But then again - you always do!



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28 Oct 2011, 9:45 am

An old PUA trick but it works.



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28 Oct 2011, 10:18 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
An old PUA trick but it works.

how horrrrrrrible, and i think you are right.

(thanks HR!)


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28 Oct 2011, 10:41 am

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
An old PUA trick but it works.

how horrrrrrrible, and i think you are right.

(thanks HR!)



WHo's HR?



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28 Oct 2011, 10:49 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
An old PUA trick but it works.

how horrrrrrrible, and i think you are right.

(thanks HR!)



WHo's HR?

HopefulRomantic, who posted before you.


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28 Oct 2011, 12:43 pm

What's PUA? :?


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28 Oct 2011, 7:24 pm

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What's PUA? :?

Pick-Up Assho...-er-....artist


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29 Oct 2011, 12:06 pm

Thanks! :lol:


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29 Oct 2011, 12:08 pm

What's "Pick-Up Assho..."?



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29 Oct 2011, 12:49 pm

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What's "Pick-Up Assho..."?
:lol: oh, Boo.


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