Telling about my disabilities

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If you were in the UK, I'd advise you to check out Sainsbury's.

With the support I've had for my AS so far, I was advised to tell a girl about my AS on my third date with her. And I was told I MUST tell before taking a relationship further.

you mean before sex?

I don't believe in sex before marriage.

I didn't either until i got myself a boyfriend and then I decided to have it anyway because I wanted to have it real bad and I wanted to see what it was like. Plus my bf saw sex as sex is just sex, not someone you think you're going to be with for the rest of your life so I thought of his side for a few weeks and decided to do it. Now I don't plan on having sex with the next guy I'm with because I've already had it so its done. I'll do it with someone I'm with for a long time but I dunno if I'll decide to have sex again or wait until marriage.

My first girlfriend was trying to push me for sex but I stood my ground that I won't be doing it. It is funny that you said your bf weren't planning to stay for the rest of the life. In my case, actually life time commitment is a major goal. I guess that is partly because I am not confident I can attract women so I just want to find someone to settle with, and have this whole dating thing out of the way for the rest of my life. As for sex, like I said I would wait till I marry. To me it isn't that important anyway, I just need to be committed to someone in order to solve my self esteem problems.

its entirely your own bussiness and all...

but why do you think you will suddenly trust someone if they have you ring on their finger?

I don't understand what you are trying to get at. Obviously I have to trust SOMEONE otherwise I would be single forever.

It is funny you mentioned this list. That was the list I was banned from back in good old Spring 2001. If not for that list, I would of been happy being single. But after that damage was done I began to look hard to "make up" for it by finding myself dates, and instead of making up for it I damaged myself 10 times more by failing.

Lol:) And now you say why don't I join that list in order to learn a better strategies for making up for being banned from that list. I guess that is pretty funny.

I so wish to go back to the year 2001 and go from there. I would of done so much better if I haven't changed my mind about thinking that I don't need friends or relationships and need to focus all my energy on school. I would of had ph.d. by now.

yeah i get that, i just....what does marriage have to do with it?

Because it is a kind of finish line. Once I am married I can focus on my studies and not worry about ever dating anyone else for the rest of my life.

There's a flaw in that youthful logic. It doesn't end just because you find someone to Seattle down with. You still have to continue to romance your wife, lest she develop Cassandra syndrome.

By the way this raises tangential question that I was going to ask on a different post, but I might as well do it now. Is it true that lack of attention creates problems? In the past I used to think that. But then I got dating tips that told me that lack of attention is a GOOD thing and they seemed to confirm my past experience when the fact that I was obsessed with someone tend to ruin it. So then I decided to neglect my last two girlfriends and focus on studies. BUT in both cases the fact that they felt that their love weren't being returned caused all sorts of misunderstandings. So what is true? Should I be obsessing about my girlfriends or should I be avoiding doing so?