The Beautiful People

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Automatic responce to what you're mind calls beautiful without thinking what is "beautiful" is.

I sometimes see women so beautiful they make me stare.

I never see men who are attractive.

yes, happened to me before. She was beautiful. like holy s**t beautiful.

While I'm sure that's quite common (from some amount of personal experience with the all-looks, no-brains type of women) the woman I saw at the brewery most certainly didn't fit that description. Just by what she was wearing, her poise and her gestures and expressions, she displayed an obvious intelligence and intellectual capacity.


Well, what I'm talking about here are the people you practically can't look away from, due to that "je ne sais quoi" Safffron mentioned. The people who's faces you're more captivated by than their figures. Not that sex appeal doesn't have anything to do with it; it's just a distant second.


I don't think anyone, when asked, could accurately describe what about someone's face they find beautiful. I certainly can't. There are a lot of different facial feature attributes I find attractive in different combinations, but I know for a fact that I couldn't readily define most of them off the top of my head if my life depended on it.


I've noticed that too. I've come across some attractive men, but maybe one for every three women, and the kind of people this thread is about are pretty rare to begin with. So, that makes like, maybe three men in my entire twenty one years.

Sort of related, it seems that a lot of people don't believe there's a distinction between finding the same sex physically attractive and finding them sexually attractive. News-flash: There is a distinction, and a very clear one, in my mind. Sure, I'll admit that there are men out there that I find physically attractive (mostly their faces, not so much their bodies) but I'm very much a straight guy, and have no sexual interest in other men.


Exactly. And not in the conventional Hollywood/supermodel way, either. Something different, but still a face the fashion industry would drool over for its memorability.

ive found men that have made me stare. Yet i dont find em attractive

I've seen some very attractive men, but it's rare that I'm attracted to them.

ahh yeah, then becomes my background.

How can you display obvious intelligence and intellectual capacity through gestures and expressions

Actually I have seen attractive men. But they aren't what most people call "attractive", well some might be but i'm not into surfer blokes for example.

I'm not so into conventional attractiveness either. There's nothing wrong with it, it just doesn't do it for me.

Watch people. People with different levels of intelligence tend to conduct themselves differently. It's often subtle differences, but once you realize that those differences are there and what they are, they're not that hard to spot. More restrained gestures seem to be more common among people with a higher intelligence. Certain movements and expressions in social situations seem to be smoother, more fluid, exact and natural, rather than exaggerated for extra emphasis. More emphasis seems to be put on facial expressions than sweeping gestures. They're careful not to overstep the subliminally appropriate level of enthusiasm for the interaction. Social intelligence is a component of general intelligence, I've found.

Feel free to call BS, but I think I've seen it enough times from an outsider's perspective that there's something to it.

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In other words, people with Aspergers are less intelligent?

If I'd said that, I'd be calling myself stupid, even with a one-forty-something IQ, last time I checked (no bragging/boasting intended). I came to that conclusion from twenty-something years of people-watching and an outsider's perspective on social interaction between NTs. Watch adults, mostly, if you want to see what I'm talking about; especially out in public or at formal or semi-formal events, like brewery open-houses or organizational functions.

I was just curious since you listed a lot of things we have problems with.

I people watch all the time. Have since I can remember. Honestly, what you described seems to be more related to confidence than intelligence IMO. The two can co-exist, of course, but in my experience there is not way to spot intelligence without talking to the person in-depth.

Yes & uh, back when I was a teen & didn't know better I did take pictures of guys I felt like that about some times. Super creepy, I know.



I totally get this too.

While I find certain women just "picture-perfect" beautiful, I don't tend to feel that much connection with them, and therefore too much of a draw. What captivates me most is cute and mysterious, like a curious kitten or fawn. These kind of women, since they're obviously in their own worlds, almost surely would show a considerable amount of depth once you manage to connect with them. It doesn't mean they're intellectual in ann academic sort of way, but very unlikely to be two-dimensional cutouts.

The problem is, they don't seem to be as easily seduced/sexually captivated as I think they will be. I'm both really innocent (in pretty much all non-sexual ways) and at the same time intensely passionate and sexual, whereas the cute and mysterious types seem to often be innocent in a sexually detached way, such that the moment they feel my attraction they feel unnerved.