Reasons why you are a GOOD catch

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I don't think I have any good qualities, at least for attracting women.

1. well-written
2. nice features (especially those lips and curly hair!)
3. thoughtful, takes care of his family
4. resilient
5. stoic and never retaliates when people are mean (dunno the proper word for that)

- I'm honest, yet not so brutally that I insult something you can't control.
- In particular, I will not pretend to be interested in something I'm not, or not to be interested in something I am.
- I'm too fearful of STD's/unwanted pregnancy to cheat, and in all likelihood incapable of doing so.
- I have a goal in life professionally - to program video games - and getting good grades in school full-time towards that.
- I am big on fairness to everyone, and would rather shortchange myself than someone else.
- I'll do lots of things just for you.
- I accept constructive criticism. It's meant not as an insult but to help me improve.
- I don't care if you smoke or drink, or not.

1. I'm a gentleman, most of the time
2. I have a good sense of humor
3. I'm reasonably handsome
4. I'm in good shape
5. I am well read and knowledgeable about many topics
6. I am a very caring and sympathetic person
7. I'm generous, perhaps to a fault
8. I am a very patient person
9. I make a very big effort for whoever my significant other is
10. I am a good listener
11. I am a very giving/considerate lover

Last edited by Vigilans on 02 Nov 2011, 12:12 am, edited 1 time in total.

Hey come on, man. I only made that thread as a bandwagon to the "reasons why you're a good catch" thread that was made before it, which died pretty quickly.

I'm tempted to say things like high iq and lifelong perfect health, but those qualities really wouldn't come into play unless we're talking very long-term. I have a good sense of humor and often entertain my friends, but it's not really the type of humor that's good for dating. I'm not saying I don't have a lot going for me, but I'd be terrible to date. I don't have many interests of the type that are good to share with someone I'm dating, I'm not adventurous enough... basically I'd be boring to date, I'm very slow to develop any kind of genuine attraction to anyone, and I forgot how to flirt... last time I did it in person was years ago at least. Maybe I should just work on being happier alone.

No offense was intended, I was unaware that another "Reasons why you're a good catch" had been created.

Despite occasionally being a bit mopey around here, here's some reasons why I'd be a "reasonable" catch:

1. Healthy - physically, mentally (AS notwithstanding), emotionally and spiritually
2. Conscientious - sometimes to the point of being a perfectionist
3. Educated - two British universities, one US university
4. Interesting back story - including the right to be married at either St. Pauls Cathedral or Westminster Abbey in London
5. Materially comfortable - not scraping for every last dime, have a couple of good, well-paid and interesting jobs

And, shockingly, all of the above are true.

Wow, how did that happen? I thought you had to marry into Royal family? or be an Order of the Bath member?

One of the lesser-known rules is that if you're a current or retired military officer / child of military officer with a gallantry award you can apply for it and it'll be granted.

1. I'm open, honest and caring
2. I would never cheat, don't see the point
3. I love to spoil a man, and don't expect him to put in all the work
4. I'm not one of these girls that doesn't talk to their partner about things that are bothering me (e.g the notorious 'Fine!' 'Nothing!')
5. I love xbox, bacon and sci fi. Also occasionally watch anime/read manga. If the internet's taught me anything most guys I like do too
6. I'm an intellectual, so enjoy conversations that are actually discussing something interesting, instead of the latest pop stars haircut
7.I hate modern chart music, and typically like a mix of rock/indie

This is based on testimony from my bf, exs and a former fwb:
- I'm cute
- I'm smart
- Interesting
- Decent in bed
- Relatively strong emotionally
- Caring, maternal
- Straightforward, honest
- Most of my interests aren't girly by any stretch
- Not clingy by any stretch of the imagination
- Independent and self sufficient
- Faithful, but also compatible with more open arrangements
- Considered good girlfriend material by most of my ex's families
- A guyish brain in a girl's body

Its actually hard to think of things when you go to type some out...

1. Im spontanious...
2. Im laid back... which can also be a bad thing because i get lazy and literally lay back alot...
3. I get things done properly with the right motivation...
4. Im mechanically inclinded... and when point 3 is in effect i can be quite handy to have around...
5. Im creative... i like to keep things fresh...
6. Im loyal to the right people...
7. I have passions and hobbies to keep me occupied...
8. I apprieciate aesthestics in general... i like things that look appealing if that makes sense...

Thats all i can think of right now... its alot easier to think of negatives

I suppose the fact that I have an inordinate amount of difficulty compiling even a short list should in itself be enlightening.

I really can't think of anything that isn't clearly outweighed by the negatives...

I don't drink, don't smoke, don't go to bars,
don't listen to music, watch sports, or stupid dramas,
don't waste money.

Does that make me a good catch?

I'd have to say that's very positive, It depends on the person though, I've met a few girls that didn't like going to concerts or nightclubs because they didn't like the crowds or enjoy watching sports, you need to find someone with a similar outlook. I wouldn't have a relationship with someone who is a drinker, smoker or a regular party girl and because you're in that mindset of not wanting a party girl, you'll go places where you think you'll typically meet nicer girls like libraries, bookstores, parks, study courses and probably end up with a more mature, healthy and decent girl.