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02 Nov 2011, 7:51 pm

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Btw, it seems that not only some guys are obssessed in analyzing the nice vs jerk thing, but also some girls here are obssessed about analyzing the variant species of nice guys (the genuine, the weak, the clingy, the idiot sweet, the closet jerk....etc) and how some species are worse than jerks and why dating even rudes/jerks would be better than them.....etc

It makes me wonder....

Anyways, live and let live.


Yeah but I openly admit to having no life and no dates, and they aren't expected. Guys who make analytic threads are usually bitching about why women won't date them.



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02 Nov 2011, 9:36 pm

Here's my thoughts on not just nice guys and 'nice guys', but the b***h and nice girl.

People put far too much expectation on all 4 groups. truly nice people lash out just like anyone else. It may take more to get a rise out of them, but they still do it. Similarly, 'nice guys' and b*****s have a good side and can be just as genuine as anyone else.


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02 Nov 2011, 9:58 pm

Am I "nice"?

I am not a guy, a boy, or a dude, I am a man.



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02 Nov 2011, 10:26 pm

I wouldn't characterize myself as a nice guy per se. I am, however, a good guy. I can get into heated verbal debates with those of opposite political leanings. Also, I'm learning to safeguard my personal boundaries which can lead to some confrontation.

In my experience (meaning, when I was one), nice guys, in an effort to always be nice, let people walk over them, let themselves be taken advantage of, and generally can fail to reach goals because they're afraid of standing out. This in turn bottles up a lot of unspent frustration.



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03 Nov 2011, 8:15 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I mean I was just thinking about some nice guys I've encountered.

They were gentle and kind, loving and friendly, would never make a bitchy comment. I had a huge surge of empathy towards them. It's quite unlike me to have a huge surge of empathy towards fully functioning adults.

I would never ever want to hurt them or be bitchy to them.

I find real nice people don't really exist on the internet..

Prove me wrong.. please.. prove me wrong?

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Umm, where do I fall in that list? I don't think i've made any bitchy comments as of late, but then again i wouldn't put it past myself to say something incredibly stupid without realiing it.

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the typical "nice guy" is nuetral rather than flirty, boring rather than interesting, stiff rather than humorous.


Ah yes. Costanza Syndrome. I like to settle into the familiar routine, day in/day out, and generally don't like exploring new things because in all honesty i'm probably just going to get burned.

Now if only the line "I'm unemployed and live with my parents" actually worked in the real world...



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03 Nov 2011, 8:27 am

well, idk if i count as a "nice guy". it all depends on who im with i guess



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03 Nov 2011, 5:53 pm

I thought I was a nice guy till I read that that self-proclaimed nice guys are a bad thing and weren't really that nice. I don't know what I am now.



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03 Nov 2011, 5:57 pm

Marvin the Martian isn't a nice guy at all.



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03 Nov 2011, 7:47 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Marvin the Martian isn't a nice guy at all.


He's just misunderstood.



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04 Nov 2011, 1:38 am

I never knew any "nice guys", growing up.

But this is probably because I was the only autistic in my class (or class range of two years either side of me).



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04 Nov 2011, 2:00 am

I've met a few. Its sad. I always wish I could help people like that. But its hard to do anything for them.



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04 Nov 2011, 2:06 am

hale_bopp wrote:

I mean every "nice guy" from here I've ever snapped at has made ether bitchy, rude or sexist comments or projected elitism.
I find real nice people don't really exist on the internet..

Prove me wrong.. please.. prove me wrong?

:cry:


I'm not sure what you are going for here, but go ahead and snap at me if you need proof. I'm not the nicest person in the world but I am cognizant of where my troubles lie.

Maybe I can prove you wrong, maybe I can't.

Bring the pain


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04 Nov 2011, 3:44 am

Freak-Z wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Marvin the Martian isn't a nice guy at all.


He's just misunderstood.


Yea, and he's logical too.

If earth is obstructing his view of Venus then the logical solution is simply....destroying it!



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04 Nov 2011, 3:48 am

I think I am a self-proclaimed nice jerk.

What does that make me again?



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04 Nov 2011, 6:25 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Are you really nice?

I mean I was just thinking about some nice guys I've encountered.

They were gentle and kind, loving and friendly, would never make a bitchy comment. I had a huge surge of empathy towards them. It's quite unlike me to have a huge surge of empathy towards fully functioning adults.

I would never ever want to hurt them or be bitchy to them.

I guess if you come across a real nice guy, may not be super confident.. you can recognise it.

I mean every "nice guy" from here I've ever snapped at has made ether bitchy, rude or sexist comments or projected elitism.
I find real nice people don't really exist on the internet..

Prove me wrong.. please.. prove me wrong?

:cry:


Wow, you're obsessed with this.



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04 Nov 2011, 6:36 am

Here's a jerk freudian analysis of mine:

I think part of the reason why girls online keep talking about the nice vs 'nice' vs sweet' is because they want to justify their secret admiration for the bad boys. ;)


Like why some guys keep talking about this subject to justify their dating failure and shift the blame.



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