For the guys, what catches your interest?

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I think it's possible to express romantic interest from the start without coming across as a creep. The trick is to find a way to show that you are interested in the person, not just sex. And to not come across as too interested. Though some people seem to think that anyone that talks to them is trying to get in their pants.

A woman who thinks and feels deeply about things. Willing to tell me how she feels and what her emotional needs are if I'm lost as to how to understand her.

Confident in who she is, and takes satisfaction in the way she lives her life. A woman who enjoys being herself and being around you is really classy.

Willing to be my closest friend and companion as well as lover. A somewhat cynical sense of humour would be something I'd enjoy.

I tend to go for the cute girl both personality and physically.

I'm only attracted to myself people are boring accept it and move on.

Acceptance. I'd want a girl to accept me for who I am, and not judge me for not being normal.

For me there's two things: common interest and reciprocation.

I get attracted easily to women that do the things I do. At this point in my life, 3 of my biggest passions are audio technology, video gaming, and singing. Not many women that i've seen around that fit in the first two (and the few that do are either taken or otherwise not interested, as usual), meaning im concentrating mostly in the music field. Overall, however, I find it important that there be something we can both enjoy together, so that at least there's something solid for the relationship to anchor itself on that isn't sexual attraction.

Other than that, a woman liking me back is pretty much a golden ticket for me. Being as unlovable as I am means that any of the extremely rare occasions where a woman is showing genuine interest in me pretty much must be treated with great care.

Oh, and one more thing (yes, I know that makes it 3 things; deal with it): Glasses. Preferably think-framed. Though I think you've got that covered
(don't ask me why I'm so turned on by glasses, I've not been able to figure that one out myself, the best I can figure out is some freudian concepts since I was one of the few people in my family with 20/20 vision growing up)

Yeah, if a girl like you got to know me a little bit and asked me out (so long as it was genuine), I'd most likely accept. If you ever move to the NYC area for whatever reason...

Geekiness, curiosity about the world, smart, talented at something.

First requirement: looks. He should at least be able to imagine himself having sex with her without being feeling repelled.

Second requirement: everything else(personality, character.....).

I like the cute awkward type, because, in real life, I'm very much that type myself. She should also be some sort of nerd. That's all really, for the initial attraction anyway.

I am attracted to women who can carry on an intelligent conversation about substantial subjects. Also, she should have a handle on vices which can lead to problems, like excessive drinking. She should be someone I could eventually see marrying, if things progress to that point. In other words, if I see early on that she has a trait I wouldn't want in a wife, I wouldn't want to date her at all. I hate the idea of breaking up, and besides, it wouldn't be honest on my part.

Looks are a bonus, but not a priority. On the other hand, there has to be some degree of physical attraction.

It sounds like you have exactly one approach to guys. It's a good one, I should think.

Chicks usually have tons of guys approach them. If you want to try an experiment, forget everything you know and treat everyone like they are okay. Sure, some are stalker types, and you're smart enough to not give out your phone number or anything. But it's nice for practice if you want to try different approaches with them.

Biggest thing for me is a woman with a bit of an edge in her personality and a lot of backbone. I need someone who is going to be a partner and can keep me in check when need be. There are lots of other things but for me that is the single most important thing, if someone is quiet and non-confrontational and just goes along to get along I'll run right over you without meaning to do so.

aren't you our little ray of sunshine aussiebloke!

I like quiet women but I'm often more attracted to livelier women with strong personalities (as long as they're not too controlling and overbearing). I don't like manipulative behaviour. Most importantly I like them to be fun, attractive and good company-these are probably the first things that catch my attention.

You could try this, really its two different things,
These things are done in short burst.

First say something creative to engage there minds like "what would it be like to dream of the future, can't you just wrap your mind around that"
You want to say this soon after you meet, say it like your dreaming it and don't be shy about it. Your being absolutely natural and yourself.

This next thing is harder I think.
I know this is not the best description of this, it does work.
You have to do something physically forceful in a short burst.
Like out of the blue kiss them and suck their tong into your mouth as hard as you possibly can.
You need to have some kind of exchange going and maybe punch them hard in the arm or bite them.
You need to make a briefly forceful physical connection.

Without experience this is going to be very hard to do.
How about this ask for help, say you need to practice kissing could they help you learn, come up with any kind of hokey intellectual reason you want. If there is any kind of yes don't think about too long just do it.

Confidence (or pretending to have it, ha) and flirtatious humor.